Asked by Anonymous at 1:21 PM on Sep. 6, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by cnoble927 at 1:24 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
Tell him he's not welcome at your home, even send him a certified letter saying so. Then every time he shows up tell him to leave or you will call the cops... then do it if he doesn't leave. He is essentially stalking you. You can get a restraining order if the cops keep having to be called.
Answer by Morgain at 1:25 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
Answer by pinkdena at 1:26 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
He is manipulating you. It sucks that he is suicidal, but he is using that for manipulation. I would tell him that we can be friends, and that you don't have to be completely out of his life, but that you want you OWN life, not his life. Let him know that you don't like being manipulated by his suicidal tendencies. It's really not your problem if he wants to end his life, but he is trying to make it your problem. Next time he threatens suicide, call the police & let them know. I can't STAND whiny men who feel so sorry for themselves. He needs to grow some balls & move on. NOTHING is more unattractive than severe insecurity & lack of self worth. He sounds pathetic. I would put my foot down if he didn't get the picture. If talking to him won't work, i would get a restraining order. The LAST thing i want is a full grown baby sobbing at my front door threatening suicide. Ridiculous.
Answer by samurai_chica at 1:28 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
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Answer by gramsmom at 1:28 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
Answer by 1bionicgranny at 1:33 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
Don't answer his calls. Don't answer the door when he comes over. If he won't go away, call the police. I had an ex that did try and kill himself. We had been together for several years and were engaged. He started college and started using drugs and said he wanted to date other girls. I couldn't be with him under those conditions. He thought he could have me too.
I started dating someone else soon after he and I broke our engagement. He decided he wanted me back but didn't want to stop using drugs. He was the love of my life but I said I couldn't live with drug use, my parents were alcoholics and used drugs (it was the 70s). He overdosed and came to my apartment. I took him to the hospital where I worked 2 blocks away and he almost died. He was in ICU a long time.
Answer by Gailll at 1:34 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
Answer by FXmomTo3 at 1:39 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
It was a bad situation for me because I worked there as a medical lab tech and his sister also worked in the lab. I worked evenings and I would have to go and draw these special blood tests from him from an artery in his groin because no one else could do it. His sister and everyone blamed me and thought we broke up because I started dating someone else. His parents were rich and got it listed as an acidental OD so he wouldn't have psych care.
He was failing college without my help. After he got out of the hospital I paid for him to take EMT training and drove him to classes. I left town and went to a college 3 hours away. He went on to become a paramedic and love his job. He has worked for the hospital since 1977. We have never gotten over each other. We've both been married and divorced. That's my crazy stalker boyfriend story.
Answer by Gailll at 1:40 PM on Sep. 6, 2010
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