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At what age or point in your childs life will you just assume they are having sex and will you be okay with it...

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SabrinaMBowen

Asked by SabrinaMBowen at 8:54 PM on Oct. 13, 2008 in General Parenting

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  • I figure if they make it to their teen years they are doing better than me. I don't plan of teaching my kids sex is bad or dirty... I just plan on telling them to be safe!
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 8:55 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • Hee. hee. When they are married!
    manna1qd

    Answer by manna1qd at 8:55 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • It's pretty hard to tell. I just hope my daughter waits for someone she trusts and feels comfortable with, that's not what i did and i regret it VERY much.
    SummersMamma

    Answer by SummersMamma at 8:57 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • Haha... Yeah not many kids wait till " marriage " but a part of me thinks thats a good thing


    I wouldnt mind if my son had sex when he was 14 as long as he was being safe about it! Some moms will think negitivly about that but oh well, kids are going to have sex when they feel like they can.

    I think the key is just to be open about it with your child
    SexxyMomma26

    Answer by SexxyMomma26 at 8:59 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • um... never.. well ok.. maybe 18?
    VictinaG

    Answer by VictinaG at 9:05 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • When my daughter is supporting herself then I will think its ok :). I had a family member die of AIDS so the talk I have with her when she gets older will hopefully keep her on a straight line.
    Marisa89b

    Answer by Marisa89b at 9:07 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • 40! I don't know if I would ever *really* be okay with my teenager having sex. However, my husband and I plan on talking about "the birds and the bees" frequently, starting before he/she hits puberty. We've also agreed that if we have a daughter, she will go on birth control as soon as she gets her period, should she and her doctor agree. We will definitely instill condom usage, boy or girl, and explain how hard parenting is, even as adults. Again, I don't know if I'll genuinely be okay with it, but as long as he/she is smart about it, DH and I will feel so much better.
    KatieBatey

    Answer by KatieBatey at 9:13 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • I honestly don't think it'll ever sit well with me when my daughter starts having sex.

    But I had sex for the first time at sixteen, and I won't be surprised if she's doing by then either. I'm just going to make sure she's informed and is doing it safely...and if she's not, she WILL know what the consequences are.
    caitxrawks

    Answer by caitxrawks at 9:18 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • Honestly, probably never! LOL! Hopefully not until they are mature enough to handle the responsibility.

    hibicent

    Answer by hibicent at 9:27 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

  • When they have moved out and went on to college would be ok I guess. But realistically never, lol.
    It would be nice if she actually would wait till she is married but I know how unlikely that is now-a-days.
    susan220

    Answer by susan220 at 9:29 PM on Oct. 13, 2008

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