My childhood friend since the 1st grade has a son that I believe may be special needs. Its not just me. Everyone that meets her and her 3 yr old son ask me is he special. His head is abnormally large for his age. He turned 3 about a month and a half ago. His head is at least twice as big as my 5yr old nephew. Its not his head size that makes me think he maybe special. He is developementally a little behind the other childen his age, and yes I know all kids develope differentally. Everyone that is close friends with her like myself my sister and a few more of are mutual friends is worried about this but are afraid to bring it to here attention. We are all young but she is the youngest at 21 she is going through a lot right now one thing being a divorce. I don't know how to approach the situation. But if something is wrong I think it would be best to get help now rather than later. What do I do or do I do nothing.
Answer by tropicalmama at 7:35 AM on Oct. 14, 2008
I honestly wouldn't say anything. It's possible that she may already know he has developmental delays, and chooses not to tell anyone. I didn't even know my nephew was autistic until he was 10, and that was because my sister was so hurt about it she didn't want to talk about it. She found out when he was 4 months old. Doctor's look for that kind of thing during well baby/ well child check-ups. I think if I were going through a divorce and having a hard time, it wouldn't want to hear judgements made on my kid(s), even from well meaning friends. I think it would just be to much to handle. But if you thought it was a safety issue, you shouldn't hold back.
Answer by Lornamay at 3:47 AM on Oct. 14, 2008
Answer by ImAlijahsmommy at 4:00 AM on Oct. 14, 2008
If her son is already on her sh*t list, so to say, I definitely wouldn't bring anything up that he may receive more grief from. Do you think his being "special" is what's causing the problem or is it more of a high strung mom sort of thing? My younger two kids were little turkeys when they were that age, I don't know how odd it is. We put locks at the top of our doors so they couldn't escape and they kept me on my toes! My youngest one even climbed into the washing machine once when it was filling when she was about 18 months. She wasn't bad, just soooo curious about everything!
Answer by Lornamay at 4:13 AM on Oct. 14, 2008
Answer by ImAlijahsmommy at 4:51 AM on Oct. 14, 2008