My older children have a different father than my younger two. My DH wants to adopt the older kids and they too want to be adopted. Now my older children haven't seen their BD for 8 yrs and only spoke to him a handful of times on the phone. My oldest remembers the abuse but my middle doesn't. My ex has been calling about 4 or 5 times a week lately. He has agreed to sign away rights to my DH, but at the same time he is making promises to our DD. We live worlds away from each other and I dont want him to see the kids but phone calls are not a problem. We actually have a protective order because he tried to kill all of us during a bi-polar episode 8 yrs ago. I do not want to discourage a relationship between my DD and BD, but I dont want her to be hurt either. I also dont want to keep her from him for fear that she will blame me down the road for the lack of her BD. Should I cut down on the contact or what? Just want it to work.Answer Question
Answer by dragonlady320 at 1:21 PM on Sep. 9, 2010
I would monitor the exposure that she has with him. Yes, he is her BD, but if it's even remotely possible that he could have another episode you want to know before your DD is traumatized.
Answer by scout_mom at 1:24 PM on Sep. 9, 2010
Answer by jolee0222 at 1:27 PM on Sep. 9, 2010
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 1:30 PM on Sep. 9, 2010