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Do you think it's selfish of a 70 year old woman to...

Get pregnant and have a child by IVF and a sperm donor?

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roxy1984

Asked by roxy1984 at 4:02 PM on Sep. 9, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • yes. i was watching that show this am. i assume you were too. why would you when your cahnces of even beinga ble toraise that child are so slim?
    cassie_m

    Answer by cassie_m at 4:04 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • not selfish....I could understand, especially if she'd never had children, the desire to want to experience that before her life ended. Rough on the child yes, but some children turn out better for rough beginnings, so who are we to say how the child will benefit or suffer from his or her mother's choice.
    BisketLiss

    Answer by BisketLiss at 4:04 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • No board certified Doctor who valued his medical license would do that. Get real.

    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 4:04 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • I personally think it is selfish and very unfair to a child!
    kamore

    Answer by kamore at 4:04 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Absolutely. Due to her age, there is a very slim chance that she would survive until her child reached adulthood. I realize there is ALWAYS the chance that a parent will die while the children are still young - even if you have kids at 22, but having a child at 70 almost guarantees it. Additionally, there is no way she would have the energy it takes to play and interact with an active toddler/child. I think it's incredibly selfish.
    arouthier

    Answer by arouthier at 4:05 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • YES! I know there are some particularly spry 70 year olds... but at 70, do you really think you'll be able to be around to support and provide for the child through adulthood?
    coder_chick

    Answer by coder_chick at 4:08 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Yes, very selfish. Totally not thinking of the childs life and how devastating it is to lose a parent. We have have some level of regret of things we wish we would have done when we were younger, but this isn't like skydiving or going to college. This a a child that at BEST will only have their parent until their teen years, but what kind of childhood would that be? Wouldn't be able to carry them much past 2 just because of their weight. Couldn't go play soccer in the back yard or teach them how to ride a bike. If you truely understood what it means to be a parent, you would love that hypothetical child enough not to do that to them.
    karamille

    Answer by karamille at 4:09 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • i think it is its very unfair to the child i agree arouthier
    cnoble927

    Answer by cnoble927 at 4:10 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Terribly unfair. To watch a child lose a parent is beyond words ... and to set a child up for this horrific traumatic experience is unthinkable.
    aliceinalgonac

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 4:11 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Very unfair!!! They need to think of her age!!!! What r they thinking,what is she thinking!!!! Those doctors need to lose their licenses!!!! How the hell did they do it??? I mean,I'm sure she was passed menopause!!!! This is insane!!!!
    dancer

    Answer by dancer at 4:12 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

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