I love my husband and we have a beautiful son together, but his depression and moods have really been taking their toll on me. I feel broken and I need to keep my spirits up for my son. I knew what I was getting into when my husband and I got married, but every year at this time he gets terribly moody and MEAN! He has stopped participating in therapy, (required for his addiction) he still is required to show up once a month, but he won't talk to his therapist about anything. His mood and general laziness I think is affecting his whole like, especially getting a better job. He has a biochemistry degree, but works in a factory. I don't want my son to grow up thinking this type of behavior is acceptable.Answer Question
I threw the question out to my husband who went through long bouts of depression in his 20's and 30's (during his first marriage, a little now but seems to have better handle on it). He says, for you, make sure you help him feel like a man, depression is very emasculating, keep encouraging him and loving him, encourage him going to therapy, he may not participate but he needs it. For your husband,He needs to start learning all there is to know about it, start taking some of the depressions power away with knowledge and hope. Right now it probably feels like it will never end for your dh so that just feeds into the depression, a never ending cycle. the more knowledge my dh gained the more control he has over it.
I hope that helped a little
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