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ok i dont know how to put this but how to tell my husband of 6 yrs im not happy anymore? i still love him but i feel were falling apart never have time for eachother wit work n kids i dont know what to do anymore!

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sandi_361

Asked by sandi_361 at 10:35 PM on Sep. 9, 2010 in Relationships

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  • You have to be honest with him. If you are unhappy, tell him, and tell him why. Don't attack him, but ask him to help you and work on some changes together. Maybe he is unhappy too and is too afraid to say anything. If you tell him you might be able to fix the problems or seek counseling....
    momof3josephs

    Answer by momof3josephs at 10:37 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Just tell him that you want more time with him, and you feel like you're drifting apart and you don't want that, ask him to please help you work on this
    Liz132

    Answer by Liz132 at 10:38 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • I think thats completely normal. I would tell him you are feeling very disconnected to him and maybe you both can come up with ideas on how to reconnect with eachother. Maybe make a commitment to have a date once a week (even if its a simple stay at home date). A friend of mine use to send the kids to the neighbors once a week and make dinner for her and her hubby and make it kind of silly, like wearing something silly... only an apron etc. Maybe even consider counseling if you feel you need it as well. But don't feel hopeless, marriage just takes work and sometimes we get caught up in the daily routine that we forget to nurture our relationships.
    Precious333

    Answer by Precious333 at 10:40 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • talk to him! if you dont it will fall apart.
    cassie_m

    Answer by cassie_m at 10:41 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • tell him and work things out..boredom is common but love is rare :)
    nance209

    Answer by nance209 at 10:47 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • Try with all your might to give it one last "hooraw." You took vowes and that means trying through the hard stuff .if it means you won't be happy for the rest of your life than lesson learned and move on
    boznitch

    Answer by boznitch at 10:48 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • i just dont know most of the time he dont care to listen i think he feels the same way but wont say anyting cus hes scared ill take the boys n wont let him c them like the mother of his daughter has done but i tell him i would never do that to him thats just not me i want him to b there for his boys n i know they need him. im just so confused because i do love him with all my heart just tired of being alone wit the kids all the time n when he is here hes asleep most of the time cus hes been working all night..i try to talk to him n all he says do what u wanna do dont even bother trying working things out ugh im just so stressed n tired of every ting ..
    sandi_361

    Comment by sandi_361 (original poster) at 10:49 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • My husband and I literally just went through this, we are taking a personal day this weekend and spending time together as his mom will watch the kids. We do not want to leave eachother because we truly love eachother, but we are unhappy. Come to find out it's due to stress of many different things going on in our lives, we sat down and talked about ways to come together and be closer, for instance simply sitting on the couch and cuddling after the kids go to bed and watch a movie, have sex more often, hold hands more, communicate EVERYTHING, This is truly working for us, I wish you the best of luck in getting things worked out or sorted out.
    JAJA_Steele

    Answer by JAJA_Steele at 11:05 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • well you should have a long talk with your hubby & try have date night with each other to rekindle your fire start wearing s**y night wear tell him how you feel
    Ricanmami1

    Answer by Ricanmami1 at 11:24 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • You just need to come right out and say it. Be honest. Tell him whats in your heart
    noahsmommy12908

    Answer by noahsmommy12908 at 11:44 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

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