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What the heck dod you do with a strong minded 4 year old HELP

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Asked by sherriew at 11:25 PM on Sep. 9, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • What is the problem in particular? Your child doesn't listen? Bed time drama? Picky eater?

    Step 1 is always to remember that you are blessed with a Healthy child
    Step 2 remind yourself that this will pass. It doesn't last forever


    Answer by ecodani at 11:30 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

  • strong minded how?

    Answer by Ashlynnsmommy07 at 1:28 AM on Sep. 10, 2010

  • There are books put out by a Dr. Dobson called the Strong Willed Child. He has some great ideas and knows what he's talking about. He may even save you from pulling out your hair and not wanting to strangle your child. Of course, you could always use duck tape and velcro them to the wall. When their challenging you, is it because they're wanting to learn, push your buttons, seeking out attention any way they can get it, or are they so serious that they just march to the beat of a different drum? Maybe they need some time and a change of scenery? Take them somewhere they can get physical and walk off that attitude by getting those endorphains working in their brains. Something else to try, Do the opposite of what you've been doing. Maybe a change to mix it up. Because when we are having a hard time, its usually a cry for help. Like you did here....Hope this helps.

    Answer by Prayerpartner at 4:30 AM on Sep. 10, 2010

  • i have the same problem. i just tell her im the BOSS.

    Answer by tonyalynn at 10:38 AM on Sep. 10, 2010

  • How?

    Answer by sstepph at 12:43 PM on Sep. 10, 2010

  • Rules, boundaries, consistency, rewards for good behavior. Hard to give specific advice though without specific questions or details.

    Answer by KTMOM at 3:03 PM on Sep. 10, 2010

  • More information is needed..."strong minded" can be a good thing, or a bad thing...depending on the circumstances.

    Answer by mainemusicmaker at 6:38 AM on Sep. 11, 2010

  • you are pretty non-specific... but at this age your child WANTS to be the center of the world, and wants their world to run their way... you can let them have an opinion and still "reel them in" by offering choices in clothing. food, activites, etc... letting your child choose lets them feel like they are in control, but really you are choosing for them, and then letting them choose within that bracket... so offering 2 shirts... not letting them dig and choose their own... offering 2 veggies rather than letting them pick snacks...

    also... choose your battles no matter what... does it really matter if a strong willed child wants to wear socks that don't match? does it matter if they wear a rain coat to bed? no... it does matter that they are safe, eating well, and behaving... let them be strong, let them be silly...

    hope this helps, since i'm not really sure what you are asking.

    Answer by asil at 9:49 PM on Sep. 11, 2010

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