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what would you do if you and your man decided to go to counseling but your man told you" we should live seperartly when we do". but when you give him a day you will be moving out he say" lets not make any rash decisions today". one minute he wants me to leave the next not to. i cant be a yoyo and i am so confused. what do i do?

 
michellem7781

Asked by michellem7781 at 11:16 PM on Oct. 15, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Your place in your relationship is being dictated by what he wants/needs. What do you want? Need? To be hanging on his decisions about things that are going on, to be dependent on the way he dictates things should go. You are entitled to deciding the direction you want things to go and to tell him. Own your relationship and your place in it and tell him where he should be... ha!!
    notjustamom380

    Answer by notjustamom380 at 5:52 PM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • He just doesn't really want to go to counseling. He prob thinks if he pressures you to leave he won't have to go. don't be a yoyo make an apt tell him your going keep going it will be good for you and once he see's your serious maby he'll join.
    momontherun32

    Answer by momontherun32 at 11:21 PM on Oct. 15, 2008

  • tell him make a decision stick to it and then hold him to it
    humaniterian87

    Answer by humaniterian87 at 11:24 PM on Oct. 15, 2008

  • my hubby and i went to counceling because we were argueing way too much it never got to the point where we wanted outs of the marraige but we didnt want it to ever get to that point and it helped us out a lot.
    Keolalani

    Answer by Keolalani at 11:28 PM on Oct. 15, 2008

  • Men are confusing in general...He's testing you..He knows u'll always be there no matter what..Stick you ur heart feeling..If he leaves once and u let him back he knows ur gonna always do that, so he's gonna keep doing that..Make him miss you!
    DiddlesMom777

    Answer by DiddlesMom777 at 12:26 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • Then YOU make the decision. You have given him the opportunity and he yo yos. He's obviously not capable of making a sound decision so you make it. He'll just have to deal with it.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 12:43 AM on Oct. 16, 2008