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How to get ur teen to stop doing the wrong things?

My teen is always upset at the world..and does nothing but sit in her room and talk to boys..help!

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sherrell7575

Asked by sherrell7575 at 8:17 PM on Sep. 11, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • take the phone away and get her a job or a position volunteering somewhere
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:18 PM on Sep. 11, 2010

  • Thank You..:)
    sherrell7575

    Comment by sherrell7575 (original poster) at 8:21 PM on Sep. 11, 2010

  • i dont think shes upset with the world..i would find out what shes talking to the boys about that is if she is open with you..as far as stopping her from doing the wrong things its not possible the more restrictions you put on a teen the more rebelious they get..just like any adult teens have the ability to make there own decisions..and its up to them to choose whats right or wrong for them you can set boundries but regardless of if you set them or not they will still make the deecision to follow your rules or not. i think a teen that is open with his/her parents and can compromise with boundries is alot better off then one that has to constanly rebel agains his/her parents those teen will be the ones that end up on the wrong path.
    MinnieMoni

    Answer by MinnieMoni at 8:23 PM on Sep. 11, 2010

  • Um, Your house, your rules, and she's not yet 18 so put your foot down and be the parent.
    Take the phone away at night, take the computer out of her room, no TV in the bedroom. TALK TO HER!!
    Being upset at the world is one of the stages that TEENS go thru....just ride it out.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:52 PM on Sep. 11, 2010

  • Crack down on rules. I agree on getting her out to do things for others. Kids get SO self centered, so getting out into the community to see what those less fortunate deal with daily is a good opportunity to raise children that are self aware and compasionate and not sitting around thinking about themselves and how bad their life is..
    KTMOM

    Answer by KTMOM at 11:42 AM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • volunteer work sounds like a great idea!
    Ashlynnsmommy07

    Answer by Ashlynnsmommy07 at 3:49 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • Volunteer Work, Sports....
    sstepph

    Answer by sstepph at 5:07 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • Give her something to do. Sounds simple, I know. Trust me, I have a 13-year-old-mad-at-the-world teen myself. You just have to keep them busy - by force if necessary. ;)
    cleanaturalady

    Answer by cleanaturalady at 8:50 AM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • love, love, love the idea of keeping them busy. You can't fix the angry at the world attitude, but you can stop her from sitting in her room and working herself up into a good pity party. Volunteering is an EXCELLENT idea. Also requiring she get involved in one activity at school (sport, club, organization, committee) there is always something going on. Encourage her to pick something that is a little out of character for her, give her a time frame and then, if she isn't cooperating, you pick! It gets better!
    MomIWant

    Answer by MomIWant at 9:44 AM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Keep finding new stuff for her to do, talk to her, go swimming with her, take her out to eat dinner and talk to her. Some girls are boy crazy that is why our computer is in the living room. Just to see what is up with the kids.
    Open up and communicate, the more you do as a family the more she will feel connected.
    mmmegan38

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 3:56 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

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