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i just ask a question about being involved with a married man. i was concerned about what to do. i just wanted to add that he is not legally married. they just been together for a long time.

dont need any bad comments i already feeel bad thank u

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Asked by jody26 at 5:11 AM on Oct. 16, 2008 in Relationships

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  • If you feel bad about it, maybe you already know the answer? I'm not judging you, but sometimes you have to listen to what your gut is telling you.

    Answer by heathermarie32 at 5:20 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • its wrong on both your parts he he wants to be with you than why is he still with her. your feeling bad because you know its wrong.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:28 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • You still no he is with some one married or not as you said they have been together for a long time maybe you should think of his other half and what this would do to her im sorry but any one who would date a married man or a man involved is just as bad as him who is doing the cheating it is extremelly selfish of you not to end this

    Answer by lilchicken2 at 6:18 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • Sorry, but you need to get out of this relationship. He's cheating on his wife. It doesn't matter if it's legal or not. This man does not respect this woman enough to marry her (sorry, gals, for my 1950 attitude) and he doesn't respect you enough to not make you the other woman. You're not a bad person but you've made a mistake picking this guy for a boyfriend. I doubt you're the first girl he's cheated on her with. If he was really done with her he'd have left by now. And don't buy the I can't leave because of the kids. That's a crock. Don't waste your time with this one.

    Answer by L.A.F.outloud at 6:37 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • just think...if he's is doing that to his "wife" he would probably do the same to you. not bashing but it is disrespectful on both parts.....if you feel bad and know it's wrong you probably know the answer

    Answer by JessicaF1120 at 7:00 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • I agree with everyone...and the longer you wait, the harder it will be...go now!

    Answer by BlessedInNJ at 7:05 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • Hi, u r not alone am involved with 1 and when i asked for advice from the cafemoms, they called me names. So please if the man loves, sacrifes to be with u, go on its ur life and close the question.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:26 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • Anon, no one on this thread is calling her names. However, like a PP said, if she already feels bad about it, then she already has her answer. You have a conscience for a reason, ladies. Obviously, the OP knows that it's wrong to be involved with someone else's man. If she didn't, she wouldn't be questioning herself and wouldn't have asked the question.

    And you talk about him "loving" you? Honey, he doesn't love you... or his SO. He obviously loves himself and no one else. Move on. It's better to be alone & have your self-respect than it is to create a lifestyle (for yourself AND your child) that revolves around a man who is, in reality, unavailable.

    Answer by AaronsMommy1015 at 7:38 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • she's got two strings and yes they have called her names and still give her bad comments even when she's asked them not to. They are being judgmental and I would wager that their lives are not exactly perfect and they need to spend more time reviewing their own life for faults instead of badmouthing her. "Those without sin cast the first stone". Now answer the woman's question without personal bias or go answer another question.

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:02 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

  • i agree with u dear admckemzie they are being judgental let one who has not sinned be the 1st one to throw a stone. What do they have to say about King David of the bible, King Solomon and even those characters who took their house maids and got kids with ie Rachel was a maid.

    Let them move their asses to other questions rather than emitting venom from their fucked up mouths.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:10 AM on Oct. 16, 2008

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