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should just stop asking him to study with me?

everytime we set up a time to study for exams he bails at the last minute. he is the one who is suffering not me, he is failing all of his classes and im gettin all B's, so i dont care if i study with him or not. i was just tryin to help him out being he is always complaining that his grades are so low and he cant understand some of the lectures. its college by the way.... i dont want to write off completely in case he does come to his senses and realizes that he needs help with studying. and he is the one who says after exams that we need to study together but when we set up a time something comes up. any advice at all would be helpful...thx in advance


Asked by Anonymous at 3:36 PM on Sep. 12, 2010 in Relationships

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  • You've made yourself available and given him a time/date/place to meet for your help. He's grown & needs to meet his obligations. Next time he misses a study session, tell him maybe he should meet w/ an academic advisor or the professor to get the help he needs.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 3:49 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • If you are still willing you can agree to study together and know, full well, he may not show. Don't go out of your way to accommodate him. Congrats on your B average. Keep it up!

    Answer by elizabr at 3:39 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • Congrats on the B average!! I would tell him that if he wants to study with you that is fine BUT he has to commit to it and follow thru. Let him know if he bails again he will have to find someone else to study with as your time is important and you do have other things that you could be doing-- instead of waiting for him to no-show.

    Answer by MizLee at 3:57 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • He's responsible for his own performance, and he's showing you that he really doesn't care about his grades. I'd stop bothering to try to include him, if he were interested he'd be there.

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 3:45 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • stop trying to solve his problems for him. he sounds depressed but there isn't anything you can do to change that. or else he is just a loser and blowing you off. either way... is your desire to stay with him out of guilt, pity or because this is someone you want to be with. frankly it sounds like the first. you are obviously smart and caring, as well as busy and goal-oriented so quit wasting your time on someone who is just going to bring you down.

    Answer by figaro8895 at 6:58 PM on Sep. 12, 2010

  • Are you sure that he is truly committed to his college classes? I would have a talk with him to see how he feels about college. If he doesn't put forth the effort then what is the point? You can't do but so much. He is the one that has to get his own grades up, not you. Don't feel that you are responsible for his grades. Congratulations on how well you are doing!

    Answer by amessageofhope at 1:28 AM on Sep. 13, 2010