My 3 1/2 year old son is hitting others when he doesn't get what he wants. No matter what we do, timeout does not work. We have started to take away all of his toys when he acts up. I believe that he's slowly getting the idea. Any suggestions would be very appreciated.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:56 PM on Sep. 13, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by SUSAN81900 at 3:00 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by LindaClement at 3:01 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Take away toys and you will have an angry, resentful child that acts up more. Punishment never teaches good behavior.
Try to find out the reasons for hitting. Teach him ways of dealing with his emotions, what's ok what's not ok to hit. It's ok to hit the couch, not ok to hit the dog. Praise him when he hits the couch. Reduce the stress in his life. Teach him stress reduction like deep breathing, meditation, yoga, music therapy, ect. Model never hitting.
Love & Limits is a great book by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called Star Parenting.
Answer by Gailll at 3:02 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by Brittney20 at 3:02 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by sstepph at 3:07 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Someone suggested keep doing time outs, taking things away, and to get eye level and explain no hitting..its not nice.
The mother already said time outs don't work. Two of us have addressed taking things away. Why don't mini-lectures work? Kids aren't at a developmental stage where they have true empathy. It's not nice requires empathy. Some adults don't have empathy. Another reason it might not work is because the kid was probably hitting because they didn't want to be nice. So if hitting is not nice then they got it right! If parents hit then it sends a mixed message kids aren't nice because they hit but it's ok for parents hit. It becomes too confusing. If you must mini-lecture, "you may not hit" or something simple without the word no would be better. Kids tune out no.
Answer by Gailll at 3:12 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by crazycappuccino at 3:37 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by vlester at 9:27 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by Ashlynnsmommy07 at 10:40 PM on Sep. 13, 2010
Answer by boomamma at 12:06 AM on Sep. 14, 2010