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We are married, in our early fourties (41,40) with a 2.5 year old. we both work and our sex life is suffering. Any sugestions?

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Asked by SUSAN81900 at 3:13 PM on Sep. 13, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Date night

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:13 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Spend a romantic night alone

    Answer by Jessica1991 at 3:14 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • I've been reading tips on how to spice it up in the bedroom lately lol ... I've seen things like planning sex...the anticipation sometimes makes it more exciting. lol

    Answer by Stephernie88 at 3:15 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Just like any other couple. Make time. If not at night, how about showering together of a morning before your toddler gets up.

    Does the toddler take naps? On the weekend, when they go down for a nap, so should you and DH.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 3:16 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • master the art of quickies! lol! we can have sex in 15 min from start to finish! its not romantic or anything but we both get what we need! we still only do it maybe once a week tho! date nights help! we try to do that once a month!

    Answer by Caroline2010 at 3:17 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • You have to make time for each other. However you do that may require some creativity, but simple things done together can be great for the marriage. Bathe the baby together, even if all he does is hold the towel for you. Fix supper together or clean up the kitchen together. If he has an errand to run on the week-end, go with him, even if it means something doesn't get done at home. The most important thing is that you spend some time together every day, doing something. If that has to be the mundane, every-day stuff, then that's good enough.

    Answer by NannyB. at 3:17 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Have someone take your child for a few hours in the evening or over night so you can have a " Find ourself" night. Its so important that you do. Hire a teenager for babysitting.

    Answer by Airforce3mom at 3:18 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Make it a priority. Make your interpersonal relationship (man-woman. not mom/dad.) a priority in your lives once again.
    The home fires only stay burning, when they are stoked on a regular basis :-)
    If those fires aren't tended on a regular basis, they begin to go out. The roaring flame become a smolder, then it just goes out.
    Even if you guys just set aside 15 minutes a night. 15 minutes after the kiddo is asleep, in which you are just a man and a woman once again. No discussing : bills, dailies in general, kid, home problems, family, issues..etc.. That 15 minutes needs to be just about the 2 of you and the 2 of you connecting with one another and stoking the flames of your interpersonal relationship. Date nights are great, can't always be had by some though. If that's the case for you guys, date night at home. A quite dinner just the two of you, dancing in the living room, picinic in the den.etc. Make time 4 luv!!

    Answer by pixie_trix at 3:21 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • a quickie during your lunch hour would spice things up, nap time sex, take a day off together and send the baby to school or daycare, regular date nights, this is very important to make time.

    Answer by maggiebella25 at 3:22 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • My DH and I have grandma come watch the kids kids for our date night now she don't know this But after we do dinner and a movie we also go have great sex because we like the feel that you could get caught but very unlikely lol.

    Answer by nikkole42 at 3:54 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

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