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Do you have a hard time getting your teens to hug you?

My youngest daugther who is just turning 13 refuses to hug me or allow me to hug her. She says it's embarrassing and she's too old to hug me. I can understand if we're out in public but she won't even hug me in private. I don't remember my oldest daughter being quite this bad.


Asked by L.A.F.outloud at 3:32 PM on Sep. 13, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (9)
  • I still out weigh them... i just take the hug!


    Answer by sahlady at 4:55 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • I think a lot of kids go through phases where they don't want to hug or anything, just try to show her you love her in other ways.

    Answer by KTMOM at 9:22 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Its a stage.

    Answer by sstepph at 9:31 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • This is pretty normal. Give her some space! Just be available when she wants to open up. The door will swing both ways. I will tell you I ask my teens to hug me, I tell them Mom's need love too.

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 3:39 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • We really don't have this issue, my older son has no problem hugging me or kissing me or even saying I love you in front of his friends. He hugs me pretty much every night (unless he's mad at me). I've never had an issue with him, he is 16 and still hugs me or kisses me, he also likes to curl up in my lap when we watch movies.

    My younger son he's a bit more embarassed by hugs and kisses and I love you's around friends. He's 12. However when he's wrestling if he looses a match, I'm the first person he runs too and he'll let me rub his back while he rests his face on my shoulder. At night he always curls up on my lap and lets me rub his head and play with his hair until he falls asleep, and he usually always hugs me good night and he says I love you every day. He will occassionaly say he's too old for hugs, but I remind him he won't have my hugs forever.
    I feel pretty blessed. I'd say its a phase, hang in there


    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 5:25 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • Yes, for a while, when my ds was in his early teens he went through this. Although, he didn't want to hurt my feelings so he came up with a compromise. He would offer to shake my hand and when we shook hands he'd squeeze it and under his breath say, "hand hug". :) The memories this just brought up have brought a smile to my face... thank you L.A.F. outloud!

    Answer by FeelinYummy at 9:27 PM on Sep. 13, 2010

  • No I don't have that problem... We are a hugging kissing family

    Answer by msbrewton at 12:10 AM on Sep. 17, 2010

  • I posted this same question the other day. My 13 year old DD doesn't want us to hug her either :(

    Answer by wahmoftwo at 12:18 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • We never had that problem with any of our children, and we are still a hugging and kissing family. My boys still hug and kiss their daddy, and they are now 40 and 33.

    Answer by NannyB. at 3:36 PM on Sep. 13, 2010