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Ephesians (chapter 5, verses 28,29) Isn't this so appropriate?

28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself. 29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; butwill nourish and cherish it, even as the Lord the church. 30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31. for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one. (body)

Having said the part , God, makes this all possible. Does this change the attitude of what men should have with their wives before they ever get married?

And how does this fit in with abusive, hurtful, controlling husbands. Which God hates and doesn't promote. ( Men don't hate their own bodies)

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:56 AM on Sep. 14, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Since we are members of Christ's body, his flesh, and his bones. v.30 (Eph. ch 4) Now do women see that it's not all them, it's the man who is responsible to the body of Christ, as well as his own wife. These vows really shouldn't be taken lightly. As long as she is married to a loving man, she should have no trouble. (well, respectively.)

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:02 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • In other words, God is loving. He gave Adam a wife. Adam was to treat her as well as he did his own body. The man is responsible to God. Both, created in his image.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:04 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Men who are lovers of God and sincere followers of Christ would/should humbly take this counsel to heart and to their utmost to apply it personally. It would make the family situation so much better if they did this. When men who claim to follow Christ mistreat their wives, many then reason that Christians in general are misogynistic and controlling. This, of course, is untrue, and they dishonor God and Christ by their conduct.

    Answer by 69humblepie at 9:05 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • I know many males that are like the controlling types, who are no different than my over--eager agressive boyfriend in high school. And these types only get worse with age.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:12 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • I honestly do believe that a man is obligated to care for his wife, that the Bible clearly spells out a relationship of equality and mutuality. Where both partners lift the other up and put the other first. When both think of the other before themselves, neither is left behind, taken for granted, or neglected. All the needs are met, all feelings validated. A man is obligated to use his position as head of the family to do what is best for the family, and any Godly man wouldn't abuse that position for his own means. :)

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 9:21 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • It really should change a man's attitude toward his wife/future wife. If it hadn't changed my husband's attitude toward me, I probably wouldn't have married him. God wants us to treat each other with respect, and hence, we'll be able to trust each other and truly know what love feels like, and be able to give true love out to others. Marriage is supposed to be what shows us what and who God is.

    Answer by DereksBabyMomma at 9:26 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • but....what I think the real core of this is, that women are said to be under that man's rule in the home. So should it not be in the same rule of home loving standards, "he" leads the love, and she is also loving back, mostly men lead in dancing., society, and leadership only because they can. But in the home I see it as a strict force of men '''r e a l l y '' needing to be in control of their bodies, their moods, and it's respect is true and right, and follows to their wives respecting their being treated well from day one. If not then the man should just pray to God, apologize to him, step out and come back to say he's sorry to the wife, so she can move on and know he's not lying.

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:32 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Hebrews 4:12,13 says "For the word of God is alive and exerts power and is sharper than any two-edged sword and pierces even to the dividing of soul and spirit, and of joints and [their] marrow, and [is] able to discern thoughts and intentions of [the] heart. And there is not a creation that is not manifest to his sight, but all things are naked and openly exposed to the eyes of him with whom we have an accounting." A man who allows himself to be shaped by God's standards and lets God's Word exert power in his life- this is a man who would treat his wife with due honor and love. That's how Christ loved the congregation, to the extent of giving his life for it. The congregation benefits from his loving, patient direction. Families benefit from a husband's loving, patient direction as well. Men do well to remember, too, that God sees all things even what happens behind closed doors.


    Answer by 69humblepie at 11:24 AM on Sep. 14, 2010

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