So I have an 18 mos. old daughter who is very active and throws about 20 tantrums a day. I also work 30hrs/ week. My husband is around and pretty involved, but my daughter is very attached to me and so I end up doing the majority of the childcare and housework. SOmetimes I get sooo stressed out. I feel so helpless and tired. I recently took her to see my family for 4 days by myself. She was very clingy and difficult the whole trip and I returned exhausted and snippy. I feel like a bitch for being this way, but sometimes I just can't help it. This motherhood thing is sooo exhausting and stressful to me. Does anyone else feel this way? I feel bad about it. I wish I could be stronger. I think of all the women who have it so much harder and I feel like a loser for not being able to keep it together at all times. Advice or commiseration is needed!Answer Question
Answer by Misteh at 11:02 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by Stephernie88 at 11:03 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
My grandson has a rare genetic immune deficiency disease that I have and all 3 of my sons had. He turned 2 on Sat. Secondary to the disease he has FTT and eczema from head to toe. He has been miserable with eczema since he was about 10 mo. He requires a lot of holding. I have to hold him when he takes naps to get him comfortable and to keep him from starting to scratch. If he starts scratching than he wakes himself up. He only has a 60% chance of survival.
My son and I share primary care of him because it is so difficult. My DIL can only be alone with him for a couple of hours. She went back to work and my son is a SAHF and student.
Answer by Gailll at 11:07 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
For us parenting isn't an issue. I'm great with toddlers and my son learned from me. He tried a couple of tantrums and when that didn't work he never did it again. We can take him anywhere and he is well behaved. When you know your child/grandchild could die you tend to not sweat the small. However, things like him messing up the whole house are still stressful when it seems like you can't keep up.
If you learn a few parenting skills/tricks you can change how your child behaves. Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary is a great book. Her book Without Spanking or Spoiling shaped my parenting 30 years ago. Her web site is called Star Parenting.
Answer by Gailll at 11:14 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
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