Anyone else hear this crap? I always end up mad and annoyed with the entire conversation because guess what buddy, i wake up to my job and go to sleep with it. He gets a lunch break and can pee alone. He does work very hard and i praise him for it! But I work hard AS WELL. He may not think its tiring but it is! All the whinning and fighting and appointments and diapers and crying and busted lips, I deal with em. I also am taking online college classes at night and working out before they get up and after they fall asleep. I always say, I signed up for it all. BUT nobody needs to say I shouldnt be tired. I knew I would be worn out but I also thought the other person that signed up to be a parent would be helping! Anyone else have this problem? How do you handle it without getting really mad??Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:10 AM on Sep. 14, 2010 in Relationships
It sounds to me that you and your DH need to have a good heart-to-heart discussion on your expectations of each other. The SAH lifestyle doesn't work if both partners aren't on board with the decision. You don't know what he expects of your job. He doesn't know what you expect of him when he gets home. Communicate!
Answer by MomToBeISaMom at 11:13 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by BisketLiss at 11:13 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by Stephernie88 at 11:13 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
I know what you mean!!! Been there. I decided it was just easier to do everything myself then be frustrated.
Answer by Gailll at 11:18 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 11:21 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by MommaofH2 at 11:23 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
A Mommy strike usually works. Only take care of the kids basic needs for one day. Then when he comes home to a mess and no dinner and says what the hell happened here today you just smile sweetly and say that you gave the Nanny, Cook, Housekeeper and Chauffeur the day off. All four of them work really hard 24-7 without extra pay so a day off was needed for their own sanity. That usually gets the point across.
Answer by oldermomof5 at 11:28 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by MommaWoods at 11:33 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
I really have to disagree with suggestions to strike or to make him take care of the kids while you have a day to yourself. It might work for a while, sure, but I don't think it will solve anything. You are both starting to resent each other, and to play games will only worsen the resentment. Communicate!
Answer by MomToBeISaMom at 11:33 AM on Sep. 14, 2010
Answer by MommaWoods at 11:36 AM on Sep. 14, 2010