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What age should you start talking about sex with your son, and is it different for boys then girls?????

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Asked by MaineMomAh2 at 2:24 PM on Sep. 14, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Age appropriate from birth. FULL talk by 10. IMO. And now, no difference in the age. And they should learn the same things, although, they should learn about their own puberty first.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 2:28 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • In my house it's a conversation that starts as soon as they are able to know they are a boy... Basics like body parts and who can and can't touch them, when we can touch ourselves and who to talk to about questions started as soon as they could talk. I only have boys and the moment, but we're having a girl this winter and I'll be doing the same thing with her... Sex ed is life ed IMO and should be started asap!

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 2:29 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • I would say 9.

    Answer by sguy1983 at 2:30 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • We have made sure that they know what their private parts are and girls have different ones and they are not to be touched by strangers and we have tried to be open with them about where babies come from, guess we are on the right track!!!! thanks for the advice!!!!!

    Comment by MaineMomAh2 (original poster) at 2:46 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • I agree that it should start young and not be one talk, but lifelong learning like everything else. Proper words for body parts is the place to start. DD knows boys have a penis and testicles, girls have a vulva (vagina and clitoris), we go pee with our urethra, poop with our anus, and mommy has a baby in her uterus that will come out of the vagina. She knows about pubic hair and my periods. That covers a lot of it. We read a book that explained intercourse in good kid terms but it hasn't really come up other than that. The body parts were easy since she sees them but we don't want her watching people have sex so we'll see how that comes up later. She's only going on 3.

    Answer by jus1jess at 3:01 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Whenever they start asking questions and then progress as they get older to more detail.

    Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 8:39 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • as soon as they are able to understand what you are saying to them - we never had silly names for body parts - we always used the term "penis" - in fact, one day, a little girl was over playing at our house, she must have been-2-3, they were both talking in sentences - she had been in the bathroom for quite a while and i asked my son to go in and make sure she was alright- i still laugh today about his answer - he came out and said, "mommy, bonnie is okay, but she's not 'finished'"! that was when we had the boy/girl talk - we started talking then and kept on talking from there on - we made sure, early on, how their bodies would be changing, about masterbation, it was not a bad thing - respecting girls, and when they were old enough, to always have safe sex ( and i'm not talking 14-16 here - we told them we did not feel that they were emotionally ready for sexual relationships in h.s. - hope they took our advice! smiles -

    Answer by kaysimon132461 at 8:59 AM on Sep. 15, 2010

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