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i am 22 with a three yr old baby girl and my son is due 1-25-09 but am in the hospital due to risk of delivering another preemie. i'm so depressed and my boyfriend keeps leaving me. what should i do? please help!

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MamaMia86

Asked by MamaMia86 at 12:13 AM on Oct. 17, 2008 in Relationships

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  • stop having babies with jerks?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:15 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • Dam, that was kind of harsh don't u think? I wouldn't worry about him rite now u can (or can't depending on what u want 2 do) deal w/ him l8r bc the reason that ur in the hospital is a pretty serious 1. I'd focus on u & ur baby bc both of u being healthy is what's really important,
    LovingParent08

    Answer by LovingParent08 at 12:21 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • The person with the first post is a jerk she couldnt even show her face!! Anyway going back to the subject do you have friends or family you can get support from cause it sounds like the boyfriend is no help at all and you do not need the stress from him right now just because he doesnt want to take care of his responsibilities just concentrat on you and the health of your baby and your little girl and forget about him if he really wants to be around he will pull his head outta his ass and do whats right otherwise you gotta let go and thats whats best for you and your kids even though its one of the hardest things you will ever do!! Keep your chin up!!
    scaredmommy08

    Answer by scaredmommy08 at 12:21 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • Concentrate on your health and the health of your baby. You 2 come first. if the BF is that much of a looser, let him go. Worry about what you CAN do instead of the what if's right now. Your health and the baby's are the MOST important thing right now.
    vbruno

    Answer by vbruno at 12:37 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • Lol! First anon poster is hilarious, and smart.
    OOHPFG

    Answer by OOHPFG at 12:51 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • There isn't much you can do about it. You can't make a guy be responsible, so I would start making plans to be self sufficient as soon as possible. Go to school and get a career in which you can support your kids. Seek support from family and friends that can help you. Keep your mind occupied and busy with plans for your future that don't include a guy you can't count on when times are rough.
    cdgoldilocks

    Answer by cdgoldilocks at 12:53 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • give your baby up for adoption cause your not ready to be another mom and neither is your dumb ass boyfriend. next time use protection. think of your poor baby growing up in what you can provide and then what another family can provide. security and just as much love as you. a future and education. lots more then you can provide. it is the most selfless act you can do. you can't change this man or rather this boy and you can't change your financial situation over night. so please think and pray about what is best for this poor baby and if it were at all possible for your 3 yr old as well. stop being stupid and stop having kids. they deserve better and your not the better.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 1:20 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • First? Stop calling him your boyfriend. He's a man you happen to know who donated sperm. A boyfriend doesn't act this way.

    Next? Take care of yourself and the baby.

    Third? Start thinking about what you will do to support yourself and your children. Basically, make plans as if he's out of the picture...because that's where he should be. (ALTHOUGH....you need to get your legal ducks in a row. Don't let him skip on support.)

    Chin up, learn from your mistakes and move on from this guy.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:52 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • I agree with everyone that has told you to not worry about the "boyfriend" and to worry about your unborn baby and your lil girl. As for the one that told you to give up your children she had not right and its your life!!! there are alot of things i would like to say to her but i would probably get kicked out of cafemom for saying them and one nasty person is not worth it. Take care of your self and your children. THATS ALL THATS MATTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    EJsHottMama

    Answer by EJsHottMama at 2:07 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

  • Wait....Do you mean leaving the hospital which makes you feel lonely or actually LEAVING you?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:28 AM on Oct. 17, 2008

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