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my daughter is 9 going on 10 and she is a big girl she is 130 and i dont wont to tell her to stop eating alot cause i dont wont her to think that i am calling her fat cause people all ready talk about her cause she is the biggest girl in her class and she is starting to get bumps on her face and have a bad temper some times and she has to wear training brows what is going on.

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Asked by cho2010colate at 7:46 PM on Sep. 14, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • why dnt you try sports, or is she already in them? also does she eat healthy?

    Answer by gabby06 at 7:48 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Sounds like early puberty. Has she had a checkup lately? See what activities she might be interested in if she is not doing some already. We used to require our kids to pick one activity, at least. It is good socially for them and physically.

    Answer by elizabr at 7:48 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Stock the house with food that are healthy like carrots, fruit, rice cakes, things that don't have a lot of calories. Have her exercise more and enroll her in a dance class or a sport. She is probably starting puberty now as well.

    Answer by babyfat5 at 7:50 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • you control the food by buying it and cooking it. change to healthier items and like gabby06 said sports? or even dancing. maybe something you can do together.


    Answer by northcarolinama at 7:50 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • You don't have to tell her to stop eating you just have to tell her that the whole family is going to start eating healthier. Start cooking less food in general and making more health conscientious meals. No long purchase 'junk' When she is hungry offer and apple or sun chips. ON the weekends if you want to take her out to splint an ice cream with you that's great. She's a kid and she should get to have fun food sometimes. Find an activity she would enjoy doing, Dance, Karate, soccer, softball, walking the dog... and do it with her or at least practice with her. It doens't have to be about her it can be about the family.

    Answer by But_Mommie at 7:50 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • well i assume you mean training bras, not brows. but anyway, the acne and boobs are because she is starting puberty. overweight kids start puberty earlier than if they were thin. i wouldn't lecture her about her eating habits because you don't need to. you're her mother. you buy the food in the house and you tell her what she can and cannot eat. i think you need to start buying healthy foods, take out the food at mealtime and put it on the plate (instead of letting her help herself), make sure she is only drinking water and no sugary drinks, don't even keep junk in the house to tempt her. the biggest thing you can do is lead by example. start eating healthy yourself, exercise more and don't make her feel bad about her weight. just stress getting the whole family healthy and start making that part of your daily lives.

    Answer by princessbeth79 at 7:52 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • how tall is she? If its just a little chunk then its probably puberty, if its really excessive, which is why I am wondering about height, then the is nothing new. Don't make junk food an option, don't buy snack, like chips, but fruit in replacement of snacks, and don't have sweets or salty foods in her diet. You don't have to tell her why you aren't buying junk any more, just say you don't want it at the house anymore.

    Answer by DomoniqueWS at 7:53 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Just educate her on eating healthy. Even at 10 its not too late to get her on the right track. With kids its easier to lose because they can simply do something they can enjoy. Eating is big though so foucs on seeing ways to change how she eats..if thats the issues? If she eats healthy and exercises then maybe a visit to the doctor is needed because that is big for her age...GOOD LUCK!

    Answer by hill2 at 7:54 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • your her mother, you can tell her to stop eating. It doesnt have to be in a negative way or mean. You can tell her that you are going to teach her how to live a healthy lifestyle. And to help her keep to it, you can join in with her to show how important it is to be healthy. Get her up and moving. It doesnt have to be a high intense sport. Just taking walks daily can help. Walking for 30 minutes a day will slowly but surely in a healthy way help her lose weight and at the same time feel better about herself.

    Answer by DelaneyD at 7:55 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Instead of telling her not to eat only let her eat good foods like carrots and celery and healthy snacks. It's your job as a parent to monitor what she is eating and ensure she is getting the good foods she needs. Also why dont the two of you go for walks and bike ride or something along those lines. Is she interested in any sports or dancing or something like that?

    Answer by lolo0636 at 7:55 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

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