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Almost 4 and still not completely potty trained, now what?

My d is at her wits end. Her son still wets his shorts and doesn't care if he wears them wet. He picks his own undies and pants, changes them when he wants or is told to and will go potty when told, if he feels like it. He totally understands the whole potty concept, he just doesn't care. Any ideas?

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Asked by lee63 at 10:45 PM on Sep. 14, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • my 5 years old dd is still doing that! she's gotten to the point where she will try to be sneaky and hide her wet panties. we have to tell her every hour or so to go try, otherwise she just gets busy and doesn't feel like stopping what she's doing to go potty. however, today is day 5 that she hasn't had an "accident" i think it's been near 2 months since she's gone this many days dry in a row. we have started to reward her for when she goes and not giving her any special attention for accidents. she has a jar that she puts a ticket in for whenever she goes to the bathroom, and 3 for staying dry at school. when the jar is full she decided her prize is chuck e cheese. we make her hand wash her wet clothes and she loses 2 tickets everytime she is wet.

    Answer by nickellmomof2 at 10:53 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • Sounds like a discipline issue. The Mom just needs to find a punishment she is comfortable with and be consistent in applying it.

    Answer by luvsmysonjames at 10:56 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • If you are sure the child is willfully just soiling his clothes then a consequence that will deter that may help. Like taking away toys, or TV, games..some favorite activity. My grandson wasn't trained until just before he was 6, but he has major developemental delays.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 11:04 PM on Sep. 14, 2010

  • I agree with the others...this sounds like a discipline issue. His mom needs to start taking favorite toys/activities away when he willfully soils himself.

    Answer by mainemusicmaker at 5:08 AM on Sep. 15, 2010

  • Maybe she is pushing him to hard, but then again it could be discipline. Maybe she should start taking away things or something. Does she reward him when he isnt wert?

    Answer by sstepph at 8:41 AM on Sep. 15, 2010

  • She needs to stick with it and give him a good schedule and have clear consequences and rewards.

    Answer by KTMOM at 9:56 AM on Sep. 15, 2010

  • Maybe one of those sticker charts? Every day he goes without and accident he get's a sticker. After he gets a predetermined number of stickers he can do something fun, like a trip to the zoo? I'm not really sure. I just don't like the idea of punished a child for wetting himself. It may SEEM like he's doing it on purpose when he is not.

    Answer by PhilsBabyMama at 5:48 PM on Sep. 15, 2010

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