when we got married he agreed that i would handle the money & for the most part i do. i pay the bills & i have to inform him how much we can spend. we tried giving an allowance but somehow that didn't work. my thing is he still wants to buy things that we can't afford. although i agree we may need it doesn't mean we can afford it. also he takes our charge cards like walmart & he will get money out behind my back. i was furious when i had paid that card off to get an xbox which i could of lived without. only to see that it was racked up again. i'm trying to pay bills down & he just racks it up. he has the mentality that everything is going to be fine in the end. which it always is but i don't feel that means we should over extend ourselves. in last 2 wks we bounced & was charged over $300 in over draft fees cause he bought something when i told him both times we didn't have the money. it's like selective hearing. i need adviceAnswer Question
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 2:40 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
Answer by jennifer588 at 2:40 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
Answer by coala at 2:41 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
I did the whole allowance thing it didn't work either I even froze his debit card in ice still didn't work. I let him do the bills for a while until we had $2000.00 in overdraft charges. Then I let him see the bills and let him see the balance and show him how much I need and tell him how much he needs. I have to stay on him constantly but so far so good.
Answer by luvmygrlz at 2:42 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
Have you showed him your statements? Have you written out a budget and showed him where all the money goes? Talking isn't working. He needs to see the hurt you are in.
I would sit down with him and show him exactly how much money your household made in the past 30 days and how much was spent in the past 30 days. Show him exactly how much you've paid out in overdraft fees. Show him how long it will take for you to pay off the debt that your household has already accumulated.
If all of that doesn't work, I would tug at his heart strings. Show how you can't buy something for your child because there is no money for it. His toys should not come before your child's needs and even small wants. If he doesn't see that, then I don't know how to fix it.
Answer by MomToBeISaMom at 2:43 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
Answer by MomToBeISaMom at 2:44 PM on Sep. 15, 2010
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Answer by bethany169 at 2:56 PM on Sep. 15, 2010