I'm 47. I swear I have the sex drive of a 17 year old boy. LOL.I'm a walking horn dog all the time. Some women have a downturn in their sex drive during perimenopause.. I've had a steady upturn in mine. Most every woman I know personally in our age range, is in a sexual upturn not downturn.
My best advice.
1) find out what the root cause of your downturn is. It could be emotional, physical, mental. It could be because of issues in your relationship. Could be because you aren't getting enough pleasure out of sex in order to desire it more (be that due to the sex itself or other factors). Could be hormones. Could be stress.
2) Once you figure out the root cause. Deal with it. If it's problems in your relationship, begin working on them. If it's emotiona/mental figure out whys and begin working on it. If it's because the sex isn't pleasurable work on that with your partner.etc. Deal with the issues.
at 2:38 PM on Sep. 16, 2010