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Would you let your child wear clothes specific to the opposite gender?

I've been thinking about my childhood, and little "quirks" I had, lol. When I was about 5, I went through this phase where I wanted to be a boy. While I still played with dolls constantly, I wanted to wear boys shoes. I even wanted boys UNDERWEAR, lol, with little cars ans trucks on them. My mom bought them. Some of my family members told my mom that buying me stuff like that was wrong, and that she was "encouraging me to be a lesbian". My mom scoffed at that, and rightly so, I think. This phase lasted about a month, and I've never worn boys underwear or shoes since, lol. Well, with the exception of occasionally wearing my husbands boxers as pajama shorts. :)

Anyways, how would you handle it if your child wanted to wear items of clothing that were specific to the opposite gender?

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LovingSAHMommy

Asked by LovingSAHMommy at 2:51 PM on Sep. 16, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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  • My son owned a pair of girl skinny jeans in red plaid from Hot Topic. I didn't stop him.
    BradenIsMySon

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 2:53 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • Honestly.. I probably wouldn't let them. I know that sounds awful, but I love dressing them up in cute little outfits.
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 2:53 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • my 3 year old LOVES dresses- more power to him.
    ObbyDobbie

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 2:53 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • I let my children be themselves, to a point. I will not let my boys wear dresses in public, but I do allow them to play dressup with their little sister.
    ejkmommy

    Answer by ejkmommy at 2:54 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • Like these...

    BradenIsMySon

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 2:56 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • Honestly.. I probably wouldn't let them. I know that sounds awful, but I love dressing them up in cute little outfits."

    Oh, so do I and so did my mom. I wasn't walking around sporting an entire boys outfit, just little things here and there. She even tried once to trick me into thinking a pair of girls tennis shoes were boys shoes, and even at 5, I called her on it, lol. However, I'm glad that she let me do my own thing, to an extent, even at that age. I feel like she always took my opinion into account. I'm not at all saying you don't with your children, I'm just pointing out examples of how my mom did. I'm sure she didn't enjoy buying boys underwear for me, lol, but she did it.

    My husband would be the issue if my son ever wanted to dress like a girl. I don't think it would fly with him for a second.
    LovingSAHMommy

    Comment by LovingSAHMommy (original poster) at 2:58 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • I wouldn't have a problem with it unless it's my 15 yo son wanting to dress like Lady Gaga. Have to have some standards, you know!!
    ceallaigh

    Answer by ceallaigh at 3:01 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • I mean.. they have some shirts that are boys.. and longer shorts that I suppose a boy could wear.. but as far as dressing like a boy.. i wouldn't want that really. If they really insisted on it.. they really wanted it.. I would let them I suppose.. I wouldn't want to form their personalities to how I want them
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 3:02 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • My daughter can wear boys clothes but, not the other way around
    blue_glass_mama

    Answer by blue_glass_mama at 3:03 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

  • I mean.. they have some shirts that are boys.. and longer shorts that I suppose a boy could wear.. but as far as dressing like a boy.. i wouldn't want that really. If they really insisted on it.. they really wanted it.. I would let them I suppose.. I wouldn't want to form their personalities to how I want them "

    I agree, pretty much. I do think it would be a lot harder having a boy that wanted to dress like a girl, than it would be having a girl that wanted to wear boys clothing. Hell, I have t-shirts that are technically mens, and no one notices. But...if my husband was sporting one of my skirts, it would be a little bit more noticeable, lol.
    LovingSAHMommy

    Comment by LovingSAHMommy (original poster) at 3:05 PM on Sep. 16, 2010

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