Her friend has hurt her feelings by dating a guy she likes. What do you think I should do for or recommend to her?
Answer by older at 8:31 PM on Sep. 16, 2010
Answer by sam223 at 8:30 PM on Sep. 16, 2010
Answer by boobies321 at 12:21 AM on Sep. 17, 2010
Answer by NicolesMommy at 1:34 AM on Sep. 17, 2010
Answer by BluDog at 8:35 PM on Sep. 16, 2010
Answer by sstepph at 7:26 AM on Sep. 17, 2010
Answer by jcm62497 at 8:08 AM on Sep. 17, 2010
DO NOT BUY INTO THE DRAMA!!!!
You have to help her get a good strong mind set. I have always explained to my daughter that middle school and high school is a training ground for REAL life. You have to set the ground rules NOW... you have to practice GOOD judgment NOW. It is the way you train your brain and emotions for REAL life... grown up life. If you start buying into the drama now you will grow up always buying into the drama.
It is like an athlete training for the olympics. The athlete MUST train correctly so that he has muscle memory when it comes time for the real race. If she buys into it now and gets hung up on a drama filled life then when it comes to REAL life she will get board unless it is drama filled. Then she will end up like some of the ding bats on this site!
Answer by sahlady at 12:02 PM on Sep. 18, 2010
Tell her that she needs to let people know NOW how to treat her. She needs to tell the girl that at this age friends should come before boys and that she will not consider her a friend if she goes behind her back and does these things... and you daughter must follow through. AND if this boy comes sniffing around later down the road she needs to tell him too that what he did was unacceptable... that he KNEW they were friends.
I know this sounds a bit on the "grown up" side but it is the exact advice I have given my 15 yr old and she followed it. Im proud to say that as a sophomore she has VERY VERY little drama and TONS of friends. She set the tone early on and she knows that the friends she has surround herself with are GOOD people.
Answer by sahlady at 12:05 PM on Sep. 18, 2010