Does it bother you if your husband/SO watches porn or reads Playboy? I think its kinda like cheating since their getting off watching another woman. Not to mention a form of Lust. What do you think??
I felt the same way when we were together, we have now been separated for five months, after 8 years of marriage. He moved his new girlfriend in a month after we separated, he is now semi unhappy again because she is not into that stuff either. He used to tell me I was insecure and crazy. We couldn't have sex with out him fantasising about other woman out loud to me. These things are not normal healthy behavior, I believe these kinds of behavoir on your partners behalf are degrading and unexceptable. the vidoes and magazines and vantasies can sometimes become over welming in a relationship, one tendes to feel like if you don't play the part, then your partener wont want you in bed anymore!! We are not crazy, we are people and we do have feelings as humanbeings.
Answer by JazzyJaz771 at 11:13 AM on Oct. 18, 2008
I don't like it, I do feel it is demeaning to women and I do find it offensive. As for is it like cheating, I am on the fence about that . On one hand yeah, he is watching another woman, but on the other you have to take into consideration that men are "visual" creatures. I think that as long as he acted out only with me, I don't think it would upset me as much.
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Answer by IGotLuckyInKy at 10:18 AM on Oct. 18, 2008
And it does not bother me. I am secure in myself and I realize it is not a competition or even about me. I appreciate other men by looking, and although they are not naked it is basically the same thing. I am wondering if you have trust issues and other things going on that are making this into an issue. Men are more visual. It is not like he says--"I'm wishing you were the girl in Playboy right now." If you've seen an R rated movie with any nudity then you are guilty too on a varying level. Still does not irk me. I think when we try to control our spouses that is when there is conflict that grows. Again, I don't support nasty porn, but I've looked at Playboy and it does not offend me personally.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:22 AM on Oct. 18, 2008