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Cry it out method

Can anyone explain their way of doing this?? I share a room with my baby boy so its hard to listen to him cry. Plus sometimes he cries at night because he's really hungry. But I'm enrolling in school so I need him to start sleeping through the night. Please tell me how I can do this. He is 6 months.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Oct. 18, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • If he is stil hungry then i suggest mixing rice cereal in with his bedtime bottle. It may help fill him better. It may sound mean but the only way i could get sleep when my daughter was a nb was to roll her bassinet into the hallway until she fell asleep.Then id roll her back in. Of course she was already changed, fed and burped. Luckily I only had to do that twice! She learned quick and started sleeping through the night at 10 weeks. Your just gonna have to ignore the crying if you want him to learn to soothe himself. GL!

    Answer by Steph319 at 11:40 AM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • The cry it out method only works when your child is crying because it doesn't want to sleep not becouse your child is hungry!! Some children don't even sleep through the entire night until they are a year old. If your child is just fighting sleep, lay them in the bed and check on them every 5 mins. to make sure they are okay. And they will finally cry there selves out.

    Answer by lovinmomto3 at 11:45 AM on Oct. 18, 2008


    Answer by Anonymous at 11:52 AM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • Have you EVER cried yourself to sleep? Ever tried to go to sleep after a nasty argument where your adrenaline was flowing? Did it do anything good to you? Or did it set you up with a horrendous headache that lasted for days and prolonged agitation that made your heart pound through your chest at the slightest provocation? That's the effect that stress hormones have on the body, and it can last for DAYS.

    Crying it out has the exact same effect on an infant, it floods the body with stress hormone, which agitates the sympathetic nervous system, which triggers the body's "fight or flight" responses. Hardly an event that is going to help a child sleep.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:53 AM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • (continued)
    An infant's tolerances for stress hormones is much lower than an adults, so they have an autonomic response to nauctious stimuli, total system shutdown. This isn't the same as "learning to sleep," it's more akin to feinting.

    Children who have been left to "cry it out" have been observed to fall into lethargy in the days following an episode. So many parents ascribe that to the child being "so good after a nights sleep," but the truth, upon closer inspection, is that chemical buildup in the brain from the release of so many stressing hormones causes a condition not unlike a hangoever.

    Just what every baby needs.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:53 AM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • It violates all of natural law for a child to be left to cry it out. It's not seen at all in the animal kingdom for mothers to leave their baby's calls unanswered. In fact, doing so would be dangerous, and would lead predators directly to the vulnerable young. It's only humans who are so screwed up they ignore the cries of their young. Animals don't seem to have a problem with their young being "too attached" or not "learning to sleep on their own." I can't seem to figure out why humans think this is a need? Why do we think that leaving a child to scream until it's red in the face is going to "teach" it anything, except that the one person charged biologicially with their care has better things to do than provide comfort to them? It's absolutely absurd, and it is abusive.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:54 AM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • I agree with the last two. If the baby is crying, he needs something. Even if its just some love and comfort. Put him in bed with you untill he falls asleep then move him back to his crib. Remember that not all babies sleep throught the night right away, many don't untill their like two years old. LOVE him and he will sleep better. Don't be impatient. Charish that he needs you so much right now because before you know it he will be a big boy and you will miss these times.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • my daughter never fell into "lethargy". Screaming until she was red in the face was exactly what made my daughter the awesome sleeper she is today. When she is ready for a nap sor bedtime he goes right to her room and says night night. And she's only 2! I think anon, that you need to calm down with the whole abuse thing because it isnt even close

    Answer by Steph319 at 12:03 PM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • ok crazy person....
    if its so horrible why do dr.s say to do it? I Dont let my daughtr cry til she is asleep i let her cry for 5 min just to get her tired then i go get her and put her to sleep. I try everything else first. I feed her change her and try rocking her to sleep. If nothing works i put her down for a few mins. I does not hurt her. Sometimes they are just over tired and just dont want to sleep.

    now OP....
    You need to make sure that he is not hungry before you try anything he does not need to be hungry. Then after that you could just do what i do and put him down by himself for a few an go in another room but still where you can hear. Then go back and get him andhe will more then likely go to sleep. It works for my daughter and sh sleeps most of the night. She will wake up around 5am. She is 9m old.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Oct. 18, 2008

  • also, is the child "abusing themselves" when they have those inconsolable times every single day at the same time. They scream no matter what you do for them and is completely normal!

    Answer by Steph319 at 12:07 PM on Oct. 18, 2008

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