My DD is turning 14. I am a single mom, currently unemployed. I get assistance to pay bills and buy groceries. She told me her friend's mom gave the friend and another girl $100 to go shopping with on the friend's b'day, why can't I? Almost every day, she's talking up how much she WANTS stuff, big expensive crud. We always fight. I tell her, consider my situation and think about every sacrifice those around her make just to give her what she already has. Today she said, "Well I'm only going to be 14. You can't expect me to know those things!" But she DOES, she's just spoiled. I give her love, comfort, approval. This ONE issue is really difficult. I could REALLY use some advice!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 4:20 PM on Oct. 18, 2008 in Teens (13-17)
She needs to know the value of work, time, and money. She might also do well to give back a little. If you feel she is not yet ready for a job, maybe the animal shelter or helping younger kids with homework after school are more age appropriate. Volunteer work will give her a taste of the real word and help her to feel needed and helpful. At the very least have her help out more at home, let her know what it takes to keep that place in order. It sounds like she might also benefit from a closer look at those less fortunate then her, with Christmas coming up this would be a great time for her to take some of her old cloths and things to children in state homes or send gifts of basic everyday products to children over seas. She will see one day that she had the best of life all along, she will see she was lucky.
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