But... How do you politely tell someone that is trying to "help" you when your child is crying or fussy?
I had an instance recently when a family member took my child to comfort him and I insisted that she give him back. I think she noticed I was a bit upset.
I hate it when this happens. What can I do next time? I know they mean well, but seriously, I can handle my own child.
Answer by happy-go-lucky at 12:19 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
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Answer by aeneva at 12:27 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
Answer by queen.bee at 12:30 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
Next time this happens, get up and leave the room. Maybe people are trying to help since you are just sitting there and the child is continuing to cry. If you get up & walk around, the child will most likely calm down. You don't have to say anything, just get up and handle it yourself. I think it's nice if someone offers to help. I never had that problem since I did everything myself & no one offered any help which I would have greatly appreciated.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 1:19 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
Answer by Cynt1020 at 1:39 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
I understand what you are saying and I may have been the same way with my children. These are great suggestions. I never had family or anyone to help so I don't know what it would have been like.
Sometimes changing the situation can calm a child or a mother. Another person taking a child is not "help" as in you are not a good enough mother to take care of your child. Humans really are supposed to raise their children in a village. No one should have to do it alone. If you have a symbiotic relationship with your baby or young child they feed off your stress and become more stressed. Try not to think of owning your child, your child is also a part of the extended family. We knew this a generation or two ago.
Answer by Gailll at 1:54 PM on Sep. 19, 2010