I live in TN and my ex lives in IN. I have 3 kids, 2 college age boys at IU, 20 & 18 and a 14 yr old dd who lives w/me & my husband in TN. DD has legitmate issues w/stepmom. (She has said my dd is too old to "sit on dad's lap and hug & kids on him" & then proceeds to sit on dad's lap herself & this summer got in her face like she was a teen too and my 20 yr old son had to get between them - stepmom is 48!) Dad doesn't schedule majority of his vacation to be with them and my dd doesn't really have anything else to do when he's gone. (Stepmom "works" too) The older boys don't have to go to dad's but they usually do because it's all about sports and fun for them. Next summer w probably be much different and dd doesn't want to be "stuck" alone with stepmom & dad w/b working alot. There's much more involved regarding support & in court now so now is the best time to address the court about it. FYI-DD has tried to talk to dad.Answer Question
Answer by Zoeyis at 4:17 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
That's tough. My kids didn't want to spend summers with their stepmom while their dad spent the majority of his time working, playing golf, and all the other things he did. We lived in IN when they were teens. Their dad lived near Anderson. They worked at a Cub Scout camp near Anderson and they went and spent every Sat night (their only night off) with their dad. Their dad could go out to camp and see them any time he wanted. I lived in Muncie, about half an hour away, and my youngest son (different dad) and I could go to camp a couple of times a week and see them. They worked at camp for years. They had an OK stepmom, she was too religious and tried to make them into her sons because she couldn't have children. It all worked out because their dad didn't really want them around all the time and they were popular at camp and he was proud of them.
Answer by Gailll at 4:17 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
If your divorce was in IN teens have some say in what they do. We all got along and my ex and I never went to court over anythning. I am disabled and the boys did need money that they earned from their summer job. Perhaps your son could get a summer job where his father lives that keeps him away from his stepmom but allows him to be with his father. Summer jobs can be hard to find. Scout camps are always looking for good kids and there are day camps that the kids don't have to live at. Scouting experience is preferred but not required. They hire girls at boy and cub scout camps. One of my sons met his wife both of them working at camp. City parks hire teens to work at park progams. He is probably not going to be able to get away with just not going unless that's what his father is ok with.
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