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Do you all think fighting or arguing is healthy in a relationship?

Every couple has disagreements. Who thinks it is healthy to argue and get things off your chest?


Asked by socialworker227 at 4:53 PM on Sep. 19, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (14)
  • For us, yes it is, because if we don't get things out they build up over time and become much bigger than they should have been. We maintain guidelines though; we are always respectful and don't say anything to deliberately hurt the other. Not all couples can have a healthy relationship with arguments thrown in the mix, but for some it is healthy. It is ALWAYS healthy for the relationship to be open and honest about how the other person makes you feel, if they have hurt you, if you disagree with something, etc. How one goes about that needs to fit the relationship and the personalities of the people involved.

    Answer by preacherskid at 6:03 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • Yes get it out and have great makeup sex

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 4:56 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • If it is done constructively and without any name calling and no swearing. Communication is key to any and all realationships.

    Answer by QandA at 4:55 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • It's absolutely healthy and beneficial, as long as it's not happening 24/7.

    Answer by aliceryannesmom at 4:55 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • I think to a certain extent, when it is said respectfully, and it is something important enough to be said. Holding on to something important is not good, because resentment starts to build. But to much is not good either, and you have to argue in a fair way.

    Answer by -LovingMamma- at 4:55 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • I do. My husband and I have a great relationship because we no longer let things fester. If they are bothering us we make sure to tell the other one, which generally ends up in an argument :p
    But that is okay, because we work it out and both feel better after.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 4:56 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • Debates yes. But not arguments or fighting. Those things never get anything accomplished.

    Answer by Wrtngfantasymom at 4:56 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • Agreeing to disagree is healthy but the fighting and arguing should be held to a minimum. I used to cry when my parents fought and they would say it's ok, we're just disagreeing loudly. I'd tell them to whisper! It's just traumatic for kids to hear parents fight. I don't think being loud is effective except in a negative way.

    Answer by admckenzie at 4:57 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • Disagreements, debating & arguing are very healthy for a couple. What's important is how it's done. It's not healthy if during your arguments you are tearing each other down & hurting each other. You should be able to discuss issues & come to an amicable agreement in the end even if it's to agree to disagree. Part of being an adult is being able to discuss an issue with someone maturely and fairly even if you have oposing opinions.


    Answer by ghostwriter777 at 4:59 PM on Sep. 19, 2010

  • It is completely unhealthy to FIGHT & ARGUE. It is however perfectly normal to have disagreements. Part of having a healthy relationship is to be able to disagree in a RESPECTFUL way, no name calling, no using blanket statements ("you always or you never"), no threats (threatening to leave/divorce), no mocking. You have to listen & actually HEAR what the other person is saying, & not what you THINK they are saying. You have to be aware that YOU ALSO HAVE FAULTS & that odds are, whoever is "right" or "wrong", that YOU had a hand in the situation as well, whether it be ignoring the issue for so long, or for pushing buttons, or being disrespectful or whatever, NO ONE is completely blameless.

    Answer by stressedmomma13 at 5:39 PM on Sep. 19, 2010