ok so ive been thinking about this alot lately.... my mom has not been in my life since i was 4 years old- and i am glad cause she was a very very VERY bad mother to say the least! in a few short months im going to be giving birth to my first child, a little girl. i dont want my mom to know but she will cause i still talk to other family members on that side. my mother in law will be in my daughters life but i dont want my mom to be in hers.... what should i tell my daughter when she starts asking about her? i feel like i wanna tell her the truth but i dont want her to know about all the bad people in the world (lets just say abuse in more than one way is involved in my childhood cause of my mom).
how should i deal with questions or should i just lie and say she is dead (cause honestly thats how i feel about my mom)
Answer by jennifer588 at 7:08 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
i think the best way is to talk to a doctor about this and get his or her professional opinion. a child's mind is very delicate so when it involves children the best thing to do is to educate are self to be able to give them the best and safest answers.
Answer by iNk-FrEaK at 7:08 PM on Sep. 19, 2010
You have several years until it comes up and by then your daughter will understand that she has never seen this grandma.
Tell her you didn't grow up in the same house with your mom like most kids do, instead you lived with _______ when you were her age. As she gets older and asks more questions just give more information, like grandma had personal problems and wasn't able to take care of me when I was young, so I lived with ______ who was able to take really good care of me and love me as much as I love you.
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