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getting pregnant?????

Well i have been with my bf for going on 2 years and he just proposed. which is all great we are soo happy, and then he brought up having another kid, I have one from a previous relationship. we have talked before and we thought at the time it would be better to wait till after we are married. but we were talking and we know that some times it takes awhile to get pregnant and when he comes to visit over the thanks giving holiday he said he wants to start trying. i want kids more then anything, should we wait or start trying..................... im so confused cause we talked and said wait then he talked to his best friend bert and she asked when we were gonna have a baby and i guess it got him to thinking and now he wants to try....... and i would love to have his kids , im just not sure werther or not to wait????

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brendans_mom527

Asked by brendans_mom527 at 2:14 AM on Oct. 19, 2008 in Relationships

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  • we do have a house together in tx but i had to come back to nm for awhile so i can take care of child custody court and things like that which i cant do out of state, so while i take care of all this we take turns flying to see each other. and he is in the last semester of his masters degree in tx at sam huston state or he would have came over here with me ........
    brendans_mom527

    Answer by brendans_mom527 at 2:16 AM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT WHAT IS THE RUSH !!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:20 AM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • I would wait until marriage. You can get pregnant the very first month. Sounds like he lives away from you right now. It really doesn't make much sense to do baby making right now. Honestly, what makes sense is to get married, find a place to live, let your child get used to the living situation, make sure you have some money saved, get yourself a physical and prenatal vitamins, and THEN start trying.
    cdgoldilocks

    Answer by cdgoldilocks at 4:22 AM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • Oh girl, W A I T, DID I SAY W A I T ? ???? Y E S, WAIT!!!!!! Ok, so he's still in school. That's 1 . Youre not married. That's 2. You have a baby, not his. That's 3. I know you want to be a good mom, because youre doing the child support thing. Does he have a job line up? That's 4. How is he under very extreme pressure? LIke taxes due, child has extremely high fever and unconsolable? Religion, family dynamics ( mother in law / father issues- christmas, thsgiving- vacation-your privacy in your own home- are they cabinet openers and bedroom openers? Find these things out.
    chellenout

    Answer by chellenout at 1:25 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

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