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im a single women and wants to have a child im thinking of using a sperm donor but alway wanted to have a child with a man i loved at 36 he is not here and i want to have a child

im not sure what to do.

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Asked by BEYOURSELF22 at 2:31 PM on Oct. 19, 2008 in Trying to Conceive

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  • Stop looking for the perfect man and God will bring him to you. I believe wholeheartedley that God will not give anyone the guy they are supposed to be with until they can be content and happy alone. Make a list of all the qualities you want in your perfect man, then pray to God to ask you to be happy and content on your own and to send you this man. He will when He thinks you are ready. Wait until you have found your man before you have a baby.

    Answer by feesharose at 2:43 PM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • i say do what makes you happy. Chances are you could meet mr right tomarow or when your 50, but if it is the latter it might not be so easy to concieve. If you KNOW for shure that you can handle the responcibility of being a single parrent then i dont see the harm

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:50 PM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • if you are getting up there in age i wouldnt wait...i would go to a fertility specialist and get donor sperm....if the right man happens to come along after then so be it...but what if he doessn' will be grateful you did it

    Answer by MiraclesDHappen at 2:51 PM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • I understand wanting badly to have a baby- just remember that it is difficult to do alone. Make sure you're up for it before you take that leap.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on Oct. 19, 2008

  • There are many women like you. Check out a website called:
    You can find out what your options are in becoming a mom even though you don't have a partner. There is nothing wrong with this. And don't let anyone tell you that you should not do this. Obviously the optimal situation would be finding a husband - like NOW. But if that is not feasible - and you are approaching the age where you fertility begins to drop off - now is the time to start researching your other options like donor sperm, adoption, foster parenting, etc. Also check out the website http:/ It's a place where people who used donor methods to conceive meet and talk about these very issues.

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 11:53 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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