i feel so ashamed that i feel this way. i love him very much and even though he is not perfect i still see the best things about him. he was always a little chubby especially when i developed a crush on him. when we started dating he had to stop drinking or else i wouldn't date him. so he lost a beer gut. after we married he has gained it back although i know that he is not drinking. his belly is getting in the way of sex. it's not so much really his belly but that he wants to diet yet i see him eating right before bed or always wanting snack or fatty foods. so i feel disgusted that he has no self control or discipline. why is it i'm turned off by his lack of self discipline? any insight would be great. please no bashing although i can't see why there would be. it's doesn't change the fact that i love him just not his weakness. i'm sure he hates things about me like how i return everything i buy cause i don't like it anymore
Answer by mommyscrazy3 at 8:45 PM on Sep. 20, 2010
You are turned off because a woman wants a man who does exactly what he says he is going to do. If he said he was going to mow the lawn and didnt, or save money and didnt, or any other variety of things it would be unattractive too.
I personally dont find out of shape men attractive at all. I have been married to my husband for 17 yrs and neither of us look like we did in our mid 20s.... but we still do our best to look our best. It is kind of an obligation of mariage to keep yourself attractive to your partner.
I know that doesnt help at all other than to validate your feelings. You STILL LOVE him... he just needs to man up a bit. Maybe start asking him to walk after dinner with you. Only make enough servings for the number of people in the house (no left overs). There are little things you can do to help him on his way.
Answer by sahlady at 8:14 PM on Sep. 20, 2010
Answer by RigPrincess85 at 8:21 PM on Sep. 20, 2010
Answer by davecswife at 8:25 PM on Sep. 20, 2010
i don't like my df's lower back hair. he has had back hair since he was young. i have always been turned off by back hair. his hair isn't horrible like a caveman's. lol. although i don't like it i still love him and accept him for who he is. he's self conscious about the way he looks. he's chubby too. i think he is sexy as a chubby man. i don't like thin men. maybe you could hide snacks or not buy food that's going to make him gain weight. or perhaps have him walk around the block with you. maybe if you help him he will be more motivated.
Answer by xavierlogan09 at 9:29 PM on Sep. 20, 2010
Answer by momofangels5 at 9:46 PM on Sep. 20, 2010