Well, my impractical suggestion is a whole shift in your perspective on parenting, that your daughter is not naughty but normal and seeking to establish her independence. Reading books like "Playful Parenting," "The Continuum Concept," and "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves." Getting free emails and support on shifting parenting perspectives from The daily Groove (http://www.scottnoelle.com) and learning about validating feelings and respectful dialog. All that's a process, one I am very much still in. My practical suggestion is focus on what you DO want her to do instead of what you DON'T want her to do. I got this advice from a good friend and veteran parents. If I tell you NOT to think of a pink elephant, what are you going to do? So, whatever you are repeating (like "don't hit") all she has in her mind is the word HIT and the abstract concept "don't" (she can't make a pic of it in her mind).
at 4:04 AM on Sep. 21, 2010