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What to tell a middle-aged person who's been fired three times in a year?

What do you tell a middle-aged person who's been fired three times in a year, who's very broke, deep into debt, and spouse leaves because of the doubt of professional ability (and leaves the middle -aged person)? And that middle aged person is becoming homeless now?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 8:05 PM on Sep. 21, 2010 in Money & Work

Answers (11)
  • why were thay fired? Are they drinking or doing drugs??
    Mommy2Gabrielle

    Answer by Mommy2Gabrielle at 8:07 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • i agree with pp.... it depends on why they were fired.
    princessbeth79

    Answer by princessbeth79 at 8:10 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • Nothing...
    Musicmom80

    Answer by Musicmom80 at 8:11 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • I guess you can tell that person that they get out of life what they put into it. If they aren't willing to take control of their own life then don't expect anyone else to hang around and be drug down with them.
    shanlaree

    Answer by shanlaree at 8:15 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • Wow! Very cruel answers here.

    In the real world, firing are happening quite frequently now. A freind of mine just got fired after a week of work.

    Best thing to do. Don't assume anything. Most places test for drugs, so the person would not have had a job to start with. So drugs are off the table.

    Best advice to give this person. This person needs to find a job more suitable for him/her than just to take any job available. Use the car to move to a highly populated urban area that has lower rates of unemployment. Next, continue living in his/her car. A car can be a personal shrine and is very comfortable in the back seat, instead of the driver's. Volunteering (by checking the Chamber of Commerce) is the best way for experience and to get recognized. Then keep a mind of what has caused the firings, and avoid those jobs that put him/her is same position.

    Peace!!
    BlueSaphire

    Answer by BlueSaphire at 8:21 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • I like both of the past two answers. If it is their fault, then tell them they need to try harder or talk to them and see if there may be something more that maybe you don't know about. If it is of no fault of their own, then try to give them HOPE!! Find out what they are good at and qualified to do and try to help them get a job. Hard to answer without all the questions that have lead up to this, but..here's a start. Good Luck!! I hope things get better with your friend.
    luvmy4kidsinAL

    Answer by luvmy4kidsinAL at 8:37 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • Sucks that people can leave you when your down and out....

    It would really depend on why they were fired, and how much of their situation could have been prevented....there are alot of people who have been let go because of the economy and down sizing and if everything spiraled from there...then id be more willing to give a helping hand and kind words...but if its from bad habits like missing work or drugs, stealing, that sort of thing..im unfortunately going to feel like they saw it coming sooo...that my dear is life!
    sweetstkissez22

    Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 8:39 PM on Sep. 21, 2010

  • Despite being fired three times in a year, there is always two sides to every story. Don't assume it's all because of him. Are you sure that he was fired? Despite what happened, he could probably use a little compassion right now. If you feel like there is nothing left because you lose a job, that only makes it worse. I hope things work out soon.
    amessageofhope

    Answer by amessageofhope at 1:17 AM on Sep. 22, 2010

  • get another job. maybe the other ones were not for him.you got to keep tryin.
    mekarevell

    Answer by mekarevell at 4:39 AM on Sep. 22, 2010

  • start your business. Why wait around for someone else to hire you? Hire yourself! Jordan Essentials is always looking for new entrepreneurs. Minimal investment to start.

    motherofhope98

    Answer by motherofhope98 at 7:48 AM on Sep. 22, 2010

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