SS (10 in Dec.) told me this weekend that he doesn't like anyone but his mom taking pictures of him and that I take "humiliating" pictures of him and he doesn't like it. I do take a lot of candids because that is how I like to photograph. I don't keep obviously embarassing ones and I always ask him if je does or does not want a given photo displayed on our walls. He said it was because I go on and on saying "oh, how cute" (he used a baby voice to mimic me) over his pictures, and that is "humiliating". I admit, I gushed over one really cute picture of him taken when he was five. That was the ONLY time. I am not a gusher. I am not a baby talker. I have never baby talked that he was "so cute." HIS MOM does this, not me. He was insistent that this is what I am like so I didn't want to waste my energy. His dad didn't get it either and told his son that he was wrong.
Answer by PROGENITOR at 4:26 PM on Oct. 20, 2008
Answer by PROGENITOR at 10:52 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
Answer by robinalbright at 10:59 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
Answer by PROGENITOR at 11:01 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
Answer by SAHMinIL at 11:04 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
thats the age where kids say everything annoys them Im sure he has been the same way with his mom he hears what he wants to hear and sees what he whats to see.
Answer by robinalbright at 11:06 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
Answer by SAHMinIL at 11:09 PM on Oct. 19, 2008
You are going to have to find a way to have boundaries with him, and that includes boundaries for yourself as well. As a person coming from step parents on both sides, I can not stress boundaries enough. How about not taking candid photos of him. If it bothers him then don't do it. You want to be able to have a relationship with him, then start there. Tell him you will not take those kinds of pictures of him anymore because he has said it humiliates him. Use this opportunity as a starting point to better your relationship. With especially step children the more you are on the defense the worse the situation can become.
Answer by PROGENITOR at 11:34 PM on Oct. 19, 2008