My hubby has only deployed once so far. He's gone to Korea though.
I suggest you going to therapy, and once you have gone, asking him to go with you, to support you. (talk with the therapist about all this, of course.) This way, the therapist can 'bring' him into it. Without him actually knowing it. He can get some help without really knowing until it's already going on. If you call around to different therapists, find out first if they deal with PTSD. You need one that can help with it, so they can help you help him. Or help you deal with him. It would be a sneaky way of getting him help. Also, find out if there are marriage retreats where ya'll are stationed. We haven't been able to go on any cause all of the E-5 and below snag all the slots. And some have gone 4-5 times when some haven't gone at all. We are trying to go to one. You guys should try to go. Talk with your chaplain. The military has tons of resources though.
at 3:46 PM on Sep. 22, 2010