These are pretty normal actions for a 3 year old. I handled these things but allowing him to jump on the bed or jump on the couch, I simply made it safe for him to do so, he was really to little to hurt anything, plus its just furniture.
The running around house I turned into a game, hide and seek, or I'd change the focus to play an imaginary game like killing monsters or hunting for dragons, I'd tie a blanket to make it like a cape and we would run around the house together playing out stories. Being loud outside - totally normal, I worked on inside voices when in the house, but outside anything goes as long as he wasn't hurting or annoying some else.
My kids are normal and well adjusted, I never saw this as running amuck as long as I was protecting and being involved. My kids are 16 and 12 and simply wonderful. As far as not listening try eye contact, don't sweat the small stuff much bigger issues are yet to come.
at 4:59 PM on Sep. 22, 2010