My lil one is 4yrs old n i always try to put him to bed from 8:30pm to 9pm, now he always wants for me to stay there w/him untill he falls asleep, right now i gave him a kiss n told him i was going to the living room, i can still hear him calling me so i yelled at him n told him to go to sleep, i kinda feel bad but do i really need to stay there or am i being mean?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on Sep. 22, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
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Answer by 4xsthetrouble at 3:47 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
You're not being mean; you're being a good parent.
Falling asleep alone is a skill that children need to master in order to go on to the next stage of emotional development. In fact, when children gain the ability to fall asleep alone their overall behavior usually improves. Once you leave the room there is no need to yell at your son. Let him know beforehand that you will not be responding to him once you have kissed goodnight.
Answer by teacher-author at 9:56 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
About 30 seconds. As long as it takes to say "good-night, love ya" and flip off the lights. That is IF I even go in their room at bedtime. Usually they put themselves to sleep. They all come and say good-night and give me a hug and then go get in bed. The only time I have to go to their rooms is if they are screwing around and I have to yell at them to get to bed (like last night). Then I wait to make sure they all actually get in bed and turn out the light, close the door and go about my night.
That's how we've always done it since they were babies (they are 10, almost 9, almost 8 and 4 1/2 now).
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