I have a spouse that looks at porn a lot. A while a go I caught him looking at what looked like underage women/girls, when I confronted him about it he said that was a dark area of his life and that he does not do that anymore. I have seen him checking out women when we are out, I have seen him looking at young girls(as in under the age of consent). He says he looks at all this and thinks of me and how I am the same or different, I think this is a awful excuse. Is this normal? Does anyone else see there spouses doing this? Should I be concerned that he has a problem. I feel very anxious about this and that I can't trust him with our 3 young children. I worry that he might have a problem that borders on illegal and that he might be hurting my children. I have heard that it is best to trust my instincts in this matter, specially when it involves my children, my doc says don't ruin a relationship when you can't know for sure....Answer Question
Answer by older at 8:29 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 8:29 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
I would think the porn is normal, however the young girl part is not. I would be worried about that. When it comes to your kids, if you feel they are in harms way I would leave, if you just got these suspicions after knowing he has looked at porn, then I would question why you started having these thoughts. Have you ever noticed any inappropriate behaviors from him towards your children, or any changes in attitudes or your kids demeanor while around him? I would look for things like that. The problem is, some pron have very young looking girls, however if they are under 18 than he is in possession of child pornography and that is illegal, I think I would do more investigating.
Answer by sheloveearth at 8:30 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 8:32 AM on Sep. 23, 2010
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