My son is not really around his dad and is starting to act out about it. Now before I get bashed I will let him see his dad anytime it is a big part of a kids life to have both parents i believe to bad he doesnt agree. Anyway my son keeps saying he hates his dad and other mean things and taking his anger out on his cousins. Has anyone else ever had this problem, and what do you do about it?Answer Question
Answer by mrsmom110 at 12:28 PM on Sep. 23, 2010
Children do not have to be around their dads. How you handle it makes all the difference in the world. My son never met his father and it was no big deal, he didn't act out, and I didn't blame behavior problems on him not having a father in his life. You don't say how old he is. At different ages you say different things to kids about their dad. The important thing is to let them know it's not their fault their dad isn't around, it's just the way he is. If your son never hears the word hate he is never going to use it. I had 3 sons and I don't think any of them ever said they hated anyone. Tell your son lots of kids don't have dads and there is nothing wrong with just having a mom. Kids don't have to have dads around or dads that come and visit. It's not his fault his dad doesn't come. Avoid bad mouthing his dad and you saying you hate him.
Answer by Gailll at 12:34 PM on Sep. 23, 2010
Answer by motherof4and2 at 12:38 PM on Sep. 23, 2010
It sounds like he shouldn't be playing with other kids until he gets his behavior under control or he needs to be watched all the time. You may have to stay home for awhile and work on stress management. Kids can learn stress management techniques like deep breathing and meditation. There are lots of progressive meditation web sites. What works for stress management for my toddler grandson is music videos. Music can be theraputic, he has a painful medical condition.
The book Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary is very good. She has a web site called star parenting. She is a therapist and has books about anger in young children.
Answer by Gailll at 12:43 PM on Sep. 23, 2010