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Do you think your family should "ask permission" to take your children on an outing?

My SIL made the comment that she doesn't think she should have to "ask permission" to take my kids. I have never told her no she can't take them for a couple hours, unless we have already had other plans. She doesn't have her own kids, so I don't think she comprehends the fact that these are OUR kids and everything they do, everywhere they go is up to my husband and I..... so what are your opinions? My husband is "on the fence" about it, but I was personally really offended.

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Asked by young-not-dumb at 4:28 PM on Sep. 23, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Yes I think so because we could have other plans so they can't just come get her

    Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 4:29 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • I would see it less as "asking permission" as making arrangements. My parents certainally don't need to ask permission to take our son, but they need to make arrangements with us

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 4:30 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • if anyone wants to take my kids anywhere they have to ask me first and then i want details about where they are going when they will be back and a # i can call... my dh still isn't allowed to take our 13 month old son w/o my permission

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 4:30 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • I dont care WHO IT IS, yes they should ask permission first.

    Answer by BlacksheepSati at 4:30 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • Of course she should ask! It's common courtesy!!!

    Answer by chocolatluver at 4:30 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • Without permission it's kidnapping! ANd an absolutely ridiculous thing for her to say in the first place

    Answer by Mom2Jack04 at 4:32 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • Yes she should. Everyone should!

    Answer by eluc at 4:33 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • of course they have to ask...or at least makes arrangements way ahead of time. no one, not even close family, can just show up unannounced and take my kid somewhere. they arent her parents and she's not their daughter. that would royally piss me off!

    Answer by okmanders at 4:33 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • Yes. All my family, or anyone, has to 'ask permission' before taking my children anywhere. For one thing I just like knowing where they are. One time my in-laws just took off with my two year old son. They had just said they were taking him outside to play, but when I went outside to go to back to my house, they had took off with him, and they didn't even have a carseat. When they got back I didn't say a word, just got my son and left, and they don't watch my son without me there anymore.

    Answer by montanagal2005 at 4:35 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

  • Your SIL needs to respect your boundaries. If she wishes to spend time with the kids, she needs to ensure it is ok with you first. What if you had plans with them? If she did not check, there could be some problems she coming in and disrupting your plans because she felt she should not have to ask.

    Answer by MaryWolfe at 4:38 PM on Sep. 23, 2010

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