My son is in first grade and he has a "best friend".Well the past few days he has been coming home from school telling me that his friend is being mean to him,pushing him(my son pushes back)and just today he told me that this friend spit on him! My son was bullied in kindergarten and we are teaching him to defend himself and stand up for himself which it sounds like he is doing.My problem is ~i am friendly with this boy's mother and i have avoided saying anything about her son pushing mine and spitting on him because i feel that the boys have to handle things themselves and in the begining i would mention to her things but of course she believes her son and i believe mine! I feel like if things do not get physical that i should just keep my mouth shut and let the boys handle things(but isn't pushing and spitting physical?)..
Also is it normal for boys this age to be friends one week and enemies the next week?
Answer by lilmomma4 at 4:50 PM on Oct. 20, 2008
Answer by pupmom at 4:53 PM on Oct. 20, 2008
"I have avoided saying anything about her son pushing mine and spitting on him because I feel that the boys have to handle things themselves" You are abandoning your son and validating the other boy's right to be a bully. Think about that. Who is more important to you? The other mom or your son? If you didn't know this woman what would your reaction be? I think a little pushing is fairly normal, but spitting is not to be tolerated! (unless it is an accident from talking) The best friend one week enemy thing the next week is fairly normal for girls, not so much for boys. While your son does need to stand up for himself, you may need to help him. Maybe you could supervise a few play dates and catch him in the act and talk to the child directly. Ask the teacher what she has seen. Don't just leave your kid out there on his own.
Answer by LoveMyDog at 11:49 AM on Oct. 21, 2008
Answer by bekabunnie at 11:56 AM on Oct. 23, 2008
Answer by Kestrel1 at 11:10 PM on Oct. 23, 2008
Answer by Kestrel1 at 11:15 PM on Oct. 23, 2008