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missing my DH..what should i do

my husband and i recently decided to break up. we have a 7 month old daughter and we're both in our early 20's. i miss him but i dont want him to come back unless its what he really wants. as much i as love him n i want him to come home, i no if he doesnt really want to be there it wont work anyway...i've been trying to give it timebut its really hard n stressful. i think the situation is gettin outta control n im scared of what may happen if it goes any farther....advice?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:20 PM on Oct. 20, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Don't let him see you sulk for one thing.If you both need a time out from each other, its better than "lets divorce now"Make a good home for your daughter, get on your feet,let him see you can stand alone and he will respect you and then see how things go. don't ever depend on anyone for your happiness. Its a big turnoff for men and for women alike.if you hurt, don't let him see it.
    Kat122

    Answer by Kat122 at 5:25 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

  • Ask him where he sees this separation going. If he wants to come back he'll let you know. If not, then still tell him how you feel and see if that makes a difference to him. Don't tell him that first though. Let him tell you how he feels first. Asking where he sees it going opens the door to the future. I love timelines. Maybe it will tell you when he thinks he'll come home too!
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 5:27 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

  • you can't make him change and you have another being to live your life for. concentrate on raising your baby alone cause frankly it sounds like you guys goofed up and got involved in things that you both were not ready for. especially him. don't think about if he wants to come back but rather that you have to live your life without him. if one day he does come back deal with it then but avoid anything that makes you think of him and let the time heal your wounds. it's hard when you look at your baby and see a part of him but honey it never works when the men aren't ready to grow up and be true dads or husbands. when you can't stand it anymore get on your knees and pray to make it through this
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 5:49 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

  • hiding the way you feel does not make things better. If you hide the way you feel he will think that you are fine with him being gone. Find out how he feels and then tell him how you feel. And you should pray from the beginning not just when you cant handle it anymore!!
    bubblebean

    Answer by bubblebean at 6:25 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

  • Call him and let him know you think you should have a date that you need to make a final decision about going or staying. You both need to be honest about your feelings. What if you both didn't want to say you wanted to get back together because of you thought it would push the other to do something they didn't want to do? Leaving it hanging without some idea of when you will talk and make a decision about your future isn't good, as you know.
    manna1qd

    Answer by manna1qd at 9:23 PM on Oct. 20, 2008

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