Okay I know this probably sounds weird, but I was just thinking how many other mothers actually take time to play with their teens. I have two boys 12 and 16, and it occurred to me last night that I'm pretty lucky. My boys are all boy, don't get me wrong they are not shy, they are not "momma's boys" and they are popular, very athletic, very smart and great sense of humor. Last night we were all watching John Stewart and the Colbert Report and my older son was laying in my lap, my younger was behind the couch annoying his older brother, then they started including me in their back and forth antics. We ended up laughing so hard I was crying, wrestling around on couch and just joking around with each other...at bed time it was hugs and kisses. I just wonder if other moms keep this connection with their teens. We play football, wrestle, baseball, tell jokes, etc. I feel blessed that my children want to include me
Sometimes a cuddle is just a cuddle.In Jan 09 my 26 yr old had been home for a visit through Christmas and would soon be deployed from Anchorage.Because of the type of job he has he and his men just leave without fanfare..Just a call saying he was leaving and very little contact.The morning he was to go back his dad had gone for a walk and I was still in bed trying to not panic.He came in laid down beside me,put his head on my shoulder ,held my hand and we talked for an hour.Not about deployment just stuff,his sister and brothers woke up came in and got in/on bed also.We got up and started the day.At the airport,family of active duty are allowed to the gates ,we ALL hugged and kissed him.Including the brothers of the no affection age stage.Sometimes a hug,a kiss and a cuddle is just a sign of affection with nothing sexual about it at all.
Answer by drfink at 2:31 AM on Sep. 25, 2010
yes, my family and two neighbor families have a tradition of buying the newest super duper soakers in the spring each year.One for each and every family member including moms.Hysterical!!!! In July my oldest was home and all three families minus moms were running up and down the street in a massive water fight.I was in charge of talking to homeowners on my street about a entrance change so I am talking to new neighbor across the street when they run by.She shakes her head and asks could I imagine a bunch of grown men behaving that way with their kids.I told her yes and said which were mine.She told me just leave it in the mailbox.HAHAHA can only imagine what she thought when the three moms joined a bit later.
Answer by drfink at 1:26 PM on Sep. 24, 2010
I have ongoing close relationships with my adult sons. I don't think wrestling is appropriate, laying on my lap, and we aren't kissy. My youngest is 22 and we do things like go to concerts and take trips together. I have been a single mom since he was born. Sometimes we watch movies in my big bed together if I'm not feeling well, no sharing covers or snuggling and there is usually a big dog between us.
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