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How can I help my husband and his exwife help their daughter?

She is nine years old and everyone is jumping on her tolose weight. She is overweight but she hasn't even hit puberty yet. How can Ihelp without cutting everything out of her diet?

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pinkie23

Asked by pinkie23 at 4:23 PM on Sep. 24, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Not your problem unless asked? It's too bad but that is the stepmom's place with most issues. Make sure there are healthy things for her to eat in your house and no bad foods available when she is there.

    Gailll

    Answer by Gailll at 4:27 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • slowly trade junk food for healthy items like one week trade chips for baked then trade the baked a couple weeks later for tortilla chips and a recipe for hand made salsa and trade a couple sodas a week for bottles of water with crystal light in the flavor of her choice and to boot it'll help to make your house healthier and she'll see it as less threatening if the whole house does it
    macks_mommy

    Answer by macks_mommy at 4:34 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • Just treat her as your own and go from there she will appreciate you later ;) Just do what YOU can do to make her happy & special. GL
    GL on the stepmom thing...ugh!
    Butterfly1108

    Answer by Butterfly1108 at 4:34 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • The first thing that needs to happen is for everyone to stop 'jumping on her to lose weight". She doesn't need that pressure. That is a really quick way to destroy self esteem for a lifetime. You all need to get together and make a plan to eat better and exercise more as a whole family. The quickest way to sabbotage a weight loss plan is to totally deny yourself of something you love totally. Desserts are okay, in moderation. Healthier choices, portion control and get you bodies moving.5 small meals a day is better for you than 3 lardger meals. Don't forget the water.
    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 4:47 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • Find fun family activities that are good exercise. Biking, swimming, skating, etc. I'm sure you guys can use some extra exercise as much as she can. If it's the whole family being active she'll be less likely to feel singled out. It's great family bonding time too.
    coder_chick

    Answer by coder_chick at 6:06 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • You can only help when you have you SS in your home in the way you prepare food for her. Also, try to educate her on what food to stay away from. Other than that when she is at her mom there isn't much you can do.
    musicmom08

    Answer by musicmom08 at 6:55 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • I agree w/ coder chick. Stay positive, active and don't single her out. Being a sm can be challenging. Focus on what you and dh can do and let mom deal with stuff her way.
    BluDog

    Answer by BluDog at 10:42 PM on Sep. 24, 2010

  • Get her more active in sports or dance or something she like to drop the pounds.
    mekarevell

    Answer by mekarevell at 12:12 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • Plan family days that are active. Take the whole family paint balling or get a wii and do the sports thing. I played the tennis game with some patients once and wow it will make you work.Food substitutions are great too. Replace your breads and pastas with whole grain. Maybe start having fruit salads for breakfast. Fruits are great in the morning and I have yet to meet a kid that did not like some fruits as much as candy. If you do it in ways like this instead of saying you have to lose weight your getting to big. I am hoping they are not calling her fat I am sure she gets enough of that crap at school. Than it should lead to mentally healthy weight lose instead of possible self image issues and possible eating dis orders.

    Alanaplus3

    Answer by Alanaplus3 at 9:25 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

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