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What to do with the hubby when you have two little ones under the age of 3?!?!?!

no family or friends to take my 2 1/2 boy and 7month old girl while hubby and i go out. with two kids and no income....there is no extra money to go out with. what can hubby and i do for ourselves?!?! i feel like we are slipping away from one another slowly...i dont want to wake up and be in two different places. right now we just focus on the kids together, working on our house making it nicer, and our business....but we need more relationship growing things to do.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:41 AM on Sep. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • In your situation. You just try to grab little bits of alone time where ever you can. Stay up after the kids go to bed and have to alone time for yourselves. Or when they are down for a nap. Just because the kids are up, does not mean you can not go and sit on your DH's lap and cuddle for a minute.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 4:47 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • You need to make time, forget the dishes one night and have a evening on the couch with hubby....housework will NEVER go away. Plan a day on the weekend where you just go out sight seeing with the kids, the trip doesnt have to be all about the kids, theres adult talk to and from.
    You only grow apart if you let it, Quality vs Quantity.
    You and Hubby have to figure out what is more important, renovations every weekend (nothing wrong with this if you both love it) or a weekend where the kids go to bed early and you both have a romantic candlelit dinner or just a TV dinner snuggling on the couch.
    I have had six kids and we always made time to sit down and talk, exhausted as we were...it doesnt take much to cuddle and remind him or he to remind me that we love one another very much.
    That 5mins of bonding can wipe those eight hours of nagging, yelling and sheer physical and emotional exhaustion.
    Good luck
    turtle68

    Answer by turtle68 at 5:27 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • for us we really didn't get to do much until the kids started school. Even then we our time is when they are at school. Our kids have severer Autism and are basically our shadows all day, never go outside, etc. Makes us stir crazy. So the only we have is when they aren't here. Its hard, I know!!!
    Zoeyis

    Answer by Zoeyis at 7:12 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • we have 3 kids under 4, my mother in law isn't big on watching her grandchildren and my mom lives far away, my friends have kids of their own, so i kind of feel your situation. our "alone time" is after the kids go to bed. we watch tv either on the couch or snuggled up in bed. you could always go to a redbox in your area, $1 dvd rentals. or just pick a dvd you already have, make some popcorn. it is the "at home" version of date night. lol good luck
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 7:28 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • I couldnt have said it better than "turtle68". She nailed it. You HAVE to MAKE the time for your husb & your marriage. It's hard, but essential for a strong marriage. Getting intimate w/ our spouse should not have to be work. It's play time! :)
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:38 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • We have started a date night thing after dinner. it's more of a family thing since our son is always there but it works us.
    Liansmommie

    Answer by Liansmommie at 7:50 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • Put the kids to bed a nd just do stuff. It odesn't have to cost money. Play a board game, heck play strip poker, anything that can get you talking and enjoying each others company.
    fatcat0908

    Answer by fatcat0908 at 8:29 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

  • wait til kids go to bed grab a movie and food.. thats it
    Kittty_Katt

    Answer by Kittty_Katt at 10:38 AM on Sep. 25, 2010

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